New Beginnings - January 20

Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves. Resentments do not punish the other person; they punish us. They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. They prevent us from being in harmony with the world. Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.

Letting go of resentments does not mean we allow the other person to do anything to us that he or she wants. It means we accept what happened in the past, and we set boundaries for the future. We can let go of resentments and still have boundaries.

We try to see the good in the person or the good that ultimately evolved from whatever incident we feel resentful about. We try to see our part.

Then we put the incident to rest.

Praying for those we resent helps. Asking God to take our resentments from us helps too.

What better way to begin a New Year than by cleaning the slate of the past, and entering this one free of resentments.

Higher Power, help me become ready to let go of my resentments. Bring any resentment that is hidden within me, and blocking me, to the surface. Show me what I need to do to take care of my self by letting go of resentments, and then help me do that.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
zeeva70 zeeva70
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3 Responses Jan 20, 2013

Excellent point! I agree 100%. Resentment is really unforgiveness. And I believe its done out of fear. Fear is so deadly. because it paralyzes us from being effective at anything. Unforgiveness is the same. it stunts your growth. We get hurt the most. Forgiveness is like freedom. You grow a bigger pair of wings every-time you forgive. It doesn't mean you always forget right away, but the more you learn to see people as the flawed humans beings that they are the sooner you will soar above all that can potentially weigh you down. Thanks for that.

the past is a tricky sucker. it won't die easily

The hardest person to forgive is yourself. I don't believe I have commited a horrible crime, but I deny myself what's good in life due to low self esteem. It's hard to forgive that you cannot go on from where you are now. Even if I had the capacity to move forward, I can't move on for I am incapable, at least that's how I feel.
Thank you for another story. This one hit me close, for I cannot forgive self until I move on.

That's so true keeva. Why is it easier to have compassion for other people then think we don't deserve the same? For me having certain conversations triggers resentment no matter how far I thought I've come along.