Depression/Anxiety
Posted November 20th, 2007 at 2:52AM
Well, it's four o'clock in the morning and I am online researching how to make this depression go away. I google and google and I find this website and decide to share my story. This is pretty much every night these days.
In March 2006, my friend died in an accident. I was best friends with his sister so I had no time to mourn. Instead, I was there for her. In March 2007 I had my first panic attack. It was terrifying but I think I know what it was about because of the timing. I go to school in Baltimore, MD. I am a sophomore in college. went on Paxil to help relieve these panic attacks but it made me feel dead so I went off and had bad withdrawal symptoms. Then I started feeling sad and doubting everything about myself. I felt like I was hurting inside but I didn't know why. I began to hate my school and my life and waking up in the morning was the worst. I couldn't sleep a ended up going home for a week and missing school. I went on lexapro and at first it helped amazingly. I am also in therapy. Now, I'm sad again. My therapist suggested upping my dose of lexapro to 20 mg but this scares me because I don't want to be feel dead again and have no emotions but at this point it's so ard just to get through the easiest day. Every day feels so long. I miss my old life. Please help...anything...i'm desperate. I've never felt more sad and anxious in my life.
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You are in a lonely place right now, but remember that you are not alone. I think it's true that, for most of us who suffer from clinical depression, the medication thing takes a while to get right. I had to try several antidepressants till I found one that I could live with.
It doesn't help to tell you to be patient--not when you're feeling so miserable--and yet that is the best advice I can give you. Perhaps you should take your therapist's advice about increasing the meds for now and see what happens.
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I know exactly how you are feeling. I've battles anxiety and depression for quite some time now. My one word of advice: up your meds to 20 mg. I had doubts about doing it too, but honestly it was a great decision. There is a very small chance you will even have side effects. I'm on lexapro too and it's working great, I increased the dosage to 20 mg about three months ago.
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I'm sorry that you're not feeling well. I've taken Cymbalta before. It worked for a few months, but the numb feeling was more than I could bear. Unfortunately, it has substantial withdrawal symptoms. In order to successfully get off of this drug, I had to wean off over a period of months.
Anyway, this is not about me. It's about you. And I'm sorry that you're having such a tough time of it. I don't have any sage advice to offer, just my sympathies and me well-wishes for you. -
The dreadful thing about depression is that you think that it will never end. But it WILL.
When things were bad for me I found that exercise (in my case long, long walks) seemed to help. Exercise produces chemicals (I don't know the scientific names) which help to lighten your mood.
And a bit of prayer would help too.
Very sorry that things are so bad for you. But as you will see, other people on this website have been in the darkness where you are, and they have come out of the tunnel. -
When my mum died I was left to sort everything out, so I never had time to mourn. A few years later I started to have panic attacks & depression, the doctor said it was a delayed re-action. I take Propranolol for the attacks & it works great. One of the best ways to work through this is to keep talking, hopefully the therapist will help you! Good luck xox
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I understand what you are going through. I as well suffer from the same. I have found a therapist that specializes in behavioral modification therapy. She works to help me get to the root problem instead of treating the symptoms. It has proven to be effective in helping me find the real cause of my depression and obsessive compulsiveness. I would highly recommend finding someone who specializes in this field. Finding the cause is the most important part.
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Dear depressionhurts98,
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. Please forgive yourself. Your fears, guilt, anger, etc...drive these self destructive feelings that cause panic attacks, difficulty sleeping, etc.
I would like to recommend that you read "My Stroke of Insight" by Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D. Through her experience with losing her left brain function temporarily after a stroke at 37 years of age, she gained wonderful insights and learned that "the feeling of nirvana is never more than a mere thought away. By stepping to the right of our left brains, we can all uncover the feelings of well-being and peace that are so often sidelined by our own brain chatter...deep internal peace truly is accessible to anyone at anytime (Bolte-Taylor, 2006). -
what is this depression about???? what unresolved issues do you have here... could it be that your best friend died and you took advantage of hes sister in her time of need????? read between the lines... and you are feeling guilty about it... get really ******* pissed say sorry to your mate yourself and his sister in your mind and ******* move on... learn your lesson... and you will be fine.... i love you...
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I know exactly how you feel. I too have situational anxiety and depression. Sometimes the days and the pain never seem to end.
I am also (fortunately and unfortunately) a doctor. Lexapro helps make more good hormones in your brain, but after a while your brain can get used to them or you just may be more depressed. I think you should increase your dose to 20 mg.
I am also on lexapro. Two years ago I started it and had to increased it to 20 mg within 6 months. I felt like I was going backwards. I felt better on the 20 mg and I'm now almost off off lexapro all together.
I know what this feels like so please don't feel alone. I remember so many lonely fearful nights of crying and despair with no one there for me. I don't want that for you.
Go out, take walks, eat chocolate, pray, do whatever used to make you happy. It takes a while but you can be yourself again. And know that someone is thinking of you. -
Hey!!
I wont pretend to know how you feel but my experience was that Depression was a sign, my body and mind's way of letting me know that something is terribly wrong with my envirnoment/lifestyle and a change MUST come if I am to grow and be at peace.
My Doctor said gave me the best ever advice when she said the anti-depressants are just a crutch - if you dont sort the actual issues then there is no guarantee that things will sort themselves out.
My advice to you is to try and learn from the situation - embrace it instead of trying to run from it. There are vital lessons and experiences you can draw strength from.
I believe your body will always act to protect itself - i.e. you- from danger or harmful stuff by giving you signals and signs...
Listen and embrace them; in the end only you know what is good for you.
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Hi I know what you are going through! I am suffering from the same symptoms. My doc has put me on 50 mg Zoloft and its starting to work. Let your doc up the dose for you, if it doesnt work for you have them to switch the meds.
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I have been in this same exact place. Jumping from medicine to medicine and uping doses...you start to feel like a guinea pig. But don't give up!! It took many combinations of 'cocktails' and some of us call them until they found the right one for me. I suffer from bipolar Disorder. Ask your doctor about Lamictal and Seroquel. You never know it might be the right combo!! Keep your chin up and keep talking. It helps more than you realize.
---Michele -
To be honest i do not profess to understand exactly what you are going through all i know is that since i was 6 i had a self harm problem (Alot of shrinks etc classed it as depression) i am now 15/16 and have just started to stop and sort my life out.
I know the feeling that it is never going to end but it does.
Umm i don't know if this will help but i found that exercise helps me- this is completely personal but joining a gym has helped me so much.
Hope this helps. XxMx -
I had suffered from depression for many years, I had tried the meds and therapy. I couldn't shake it. It was an awful time in my life. I prayed all the time for God to make it go away. Still no relief. Then one day I don't know what happened to me ~ I just DECIDED that was it, no more. I started fighting back. First, I went into my basement and I screamed as long and as loud as I could, I made myself scream till my head hurt and then I screamed some more. That really took a lot of pressure off and I could feel every part of my body, silly as it sounds, I slept like a rock that night. The next day, I made a list of things I wanted in my life; love, fun, happiness, forgiveness and people, to name a few. I called and went to see people that I believed I had wronged or hurt in my life, (that included my brother who had died yrs earlier), I said I was sorry and I asked for forgiveness. My goal was to get rid of some ugliness and guilt I had been carrying around. I went to see my mom and we just talked, about everything and we laughed. It felt really good. Next, I figured I needed to get busy I was tired of doing nothing! I heard that people who don't get enough sun very often can suffer from depression, so I got outside I would read or just walk anything on rainy days I would go to a tanning salon! I started taking vitamins and eating better cause I heard your diet can cause issues! I took karate lessons~ it's peaceful you don't think about anything else while your learning karate! I took swimming lessons cause water just feels good on the body. I called people and we made plans to do something fun. Lastly, I forgave myself for not being perfect and not always doing the right thing. I can honestly tell you that my life is mine again. No meds, no doctors. Sometimes it's what we are telling ourselves inside our own heads that keep us sick. Change your self-talk, change your life. You can heal. I hope this helps, God Bless you.
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I also suffer from depression, I was officially diagnosed and started medication in 2006, but I believe I suffered from it long before then. Anyway, I'm currently on Lexapro, 20mg, and it's the best thing I could be doing. It doesn't make me feel dead, or even numb, like some antidepressants can, it actually helps me feel alive. I feel motivated and productive, and not overwhelmed. I'm a college student also, so I know how depression is affecting your studies and your life in general.
If there is one thing I think you need to know it's that I firmly believe that Lexapro gave me my life back. Without it, I would still be laying on my couch, trying to figure out a way to move without feeling overwhelmed. If you still don't want to up the dose, then the best advice I can give you is to keep seeing your therapist. Even on the days that you have to remind yourself step by step how to function, those are the days that it helps the most.
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Hi.
I think depression can be one of the hardest things to deal with in life. While there are so many other afflictions and diseases out there nothing will stop you dead in your tracks the way depression does
I think I have had depression since I was 12. Back in the 70's not much was known about childhood depression to make it worse. I started anti depressants back in 2000 for a good 5 to 10 years and stopped taking them maybe 5 to 7 years ago.
let me tell you it is THE MOST DIFFICULT BATTLE. I start doubting everything I am doing. I am unmotivated, I don't want to be around people, i hate my job and want to quit, blah blah blah. I'm so tired of feeling this
but I've learned a lot. I have some good friends who listen and support me. EP is great too! I get to write and listen to other people.
Keep writing here. It will help you along the way. I like to track my moods and graph things.
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I understand the dark place you are in. You have to understand that depression is a mood and it can be controlled. You have to learn to recognize when you have a negative thought and write it down. Then you learn how to prove it wrong. I learned this through Cognitive Therapy. You do this with or without meds. Please look it up on the internet, it will help you, but you have to keep a journal or it won,t work.
Please take care, many of us have suffered from this awful condition and we feel your pain. It is worth the struggle to get away from it. -
Hugs. I was depressed as well but came by this site because I was searching and searching for a site that can make me truly happy. You are not alone. Some had happiness easy. Let's make this our own pursuit for "happy-ness".
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I have struggled with depression all of my life and I have tried numerous drugs. Mine is a chemical imbalance and I have found some drugs that help me to manage my depression. They create a bottom to the cycle and then the rest is up to me to struggle with. I found that exercise helps and networking to develop friendships that occupy my mind and help to bring me up. I have a tendency to stay at home and hide. It's the worst thing I can do. I go to the dog park to take my dog but even more for myself to get out and talk with people. It really helps me. My dogs help me. You will have to find the little things that help until you come out of this cycle. I am available to talk if you need someone.
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i no how you feel i lost my mother on mothers day last year she was my everything.i got so depressed i started pulling my hair and hitting myself,im on paxil 75mg it helps a little.but i still cant go on i what to be with my mother so bad.and i hope someday you get better im trying but its hard.may god bless you i have you in my prayers...reva
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Hi, I also have struggled with depression and anxiety and I want to encourage you to do a bible study on the key words in your bible like "think, mind, fear, spirit of heavyness and words, tongue. They really opened my mind out there about how important it is to get our thought life and the words we say out of our mouth in line with what God's word says about us....and these bible verses have gotten me through some hard times!
1 Peter 5: 6,7 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that in due time He may exhalt you, Casting the whole of your care (all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all) on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully. (Aplified Bible)
Ephesians 6:12 For we are not wrestling with flesh and blood (contending only with physical opponents) but against the despotisms, against the powers, against (the master spirits who are) the world rulers of this present darkness, against the spirit forces of wickedness in the heavenly sphere.
I pray that all of us can come together in one accord against this spirit of depression and anxiety that is attacking the body of Christ! We are overcomers through the Blood of Jesus! -
I am not a doctor, just sharing my personal experience as I have had depressions and anxiety for sometime. The best way to get over anxiety and depression is to take a break from your regular schedule, go out, and take good sleep. This helps in clearing the mind and try consulting a specialist who can suggest you as how you can get over your problem. There are various prescription drugs to get over anxiety and depression, but these should only be used in accordance with the instruction of a physician. There is a lot of fake selling of such medicines on internet, so before you can order it online just make sure it is a real pharmacy. I am having it from http://www.xanax-effects.com
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There are different types and reasons for depression. I had a mild depression for most of my life but when I gave birth to a daughter with Down Syndrome who also required open heart surgery I decided to take medication. I went on citelopram. I am off them now (a year later) and honestly I have to say I wish that I had never gone on them. DEpressants are definately for some people but not all. If something significant has happened in your life I would suggest that people stay away from the meds if at all possible because for me it stopped me from actually being able to deal with the events of my life. Now over a year later I have only just begun to start to process the fact that I had to sign a piece of paper allowing my 3 month old childs chest to be cut open with a chainsaw. It has haunted me for all this time.
On the plus side I think as I am not coming out the other side that my mild depression has gone. When something so significant happens in your life I think it can just help you to appreciate life more fully.
Just work through it people. There is light at the end of the tunnel! -
Find something you can feel mastery over. Something small or big. It's best if it's physical and mental, such as hiking. Try to do this one thing physical thing that you can feel mastery over, on a daily basis, at the same general time every day. Maybe even write a blog publicly committing yourself to it, and allow this community to support you in building some positive momentum. We are highly momentum sensitive creatures, and right now is a great time to get the ball rolling in a positive direction. If this feels overwhelming right now, that's ok. If you feel like you can't do it, that's ok. If you just want to talk about what sort of daily activity you'd undertake if you had the energy, that's fine. If none of this touches you right, that's not a problem. It's all ok. It's life. These feelings you're having are O K -- they do not make you a bad person. They are just emotions. You're going through things that, when you get to the other side, will enhance your tools to support friends in need with empathy and experience. Hang in there....
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i too feel like you on many days, i am on tablets and seeing a therepist but i find it best no matter how hard to leave the house, is to go out and spend time with friends and family, it lifts me up. depression is not understood by many, but i understand you so chin up and you can allways talk to me
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i know how it feels but taking medications dont help. it makes u worse.
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im 16 and im going through something similar ive been depreesed for years im on paxil i was seeing a phsycologist but nothing helps i feel s empty my doctor keeps uping my mgs im now on 30mgs but i feel like ill never get out of this deep dark hole i just wish the good times would out weigh the bad
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Have you ever heard of bio feedback? It's a non drug therapy which I just started. I would suggest looking into it. It allows you to control your thoughts before they snowball in panic or depression. I also had panic, anxiety, and depression due to the loss of my mother. This seems to be the best thing I found yet and I have been to countless therapists and on numberous drugs. This biofeedback provides you with a way to regain control of your life without having to rely on drugs.
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To help your panic attacks when you get them.
Your in this hard cold world when panic attacks come on, your thinking about whats going to happen what has happened, to take you out of this world and put you back into the world we acually live in you need to focus on things in this world, you have a panic attack while walking downtown, you focus on the car driving by, what kind it is the color, then focus on the person walking across the street, there hair, there clothes.
So on, so forth, take yourself out of the world you hate and into the world that matters and whats going on in it... Ive had them a few times, they suck but it helps. Message me if you need anything :] -
I feel for you a ton D: I mean I really do I'm in so much pain too it's starting to get hard to function again I think I'm in the worst position of my life right now.
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