I Don't Know What To DoNo one knows that I am in constant agony. I'm a happy go lucky type of person but I find it's more and more exhausting to keep up this image around my friends.
I'm depressed because my husband puts his family before me, they treat me like crap but he just allows it to continue
I stopped visiting them but he said that he was depressed (and I think to some degree he's distressed with having to deal with it) so I now go again to these visits that are hell for me (because he doesn't stick up for me)
I have a higher sex drive than him and he often rejects me making me feel unwanted, unattractive and because I have tried sharing this with him and he makes no attempt to meet me half way, uncared for.
I dressed up sexy and he ignored me but then we saw a scene in a movie with a naked women and he was all over me because SHE arose him so not only am I ugly but I'm just a blow up doll to him....a convenience for when someone else gets him going. It's not about making love to me it's about relieving sexual tension.....which isn't doing it for me in the slightest.
My friends all tell me that I'm pretty but when it comes to my husband...he's always short on compliments
I am the one keeping out emotional relationship alive by accepting his depression (despite his lack of seeking out treatment) and sacrificing my own mental health to take care of his.
Ok, the list does go on but really you don't need to hear every detail.
What should I do?
They won't fix the root cause of my depression (my relationship)
I normally drink with friends every couple of weeks so I will get questioned when I don't drink and it's not something I want to share
My husband might notice....this could be a pro or con depending on his reaction
Takes time and money that I don't have
Hasn't been useful in the past for other things
My husband will know right away
Leave my husband:
I'd have to leave behind my kids because I wouldn't make enough on my own for a big enough place
I'd have to leave my home daycare business as well, so new job too
My kids would grow up without me around and that breaks my heart
Try taking to Hubby...
.....yea for the millionth time. It doesn't help and I've read tons of different books on communication so I know that if one of my approaches isn't working some of the others must be he just doesn't get it or doesn't care (hard to tell which because he SUCKS at communication)