The Camels Back

Why does everyone around me come running to me when they need help?  I mean, yeah, I want to help people out when I can but it's getting overwhelming lately. My Niece just moved her best friend in with us because he's having problems at home, my best friend just called begging me for money because they're almost out of propane and need to borrow $800.00 that I don't have. Like I said, it's not that I don't want to help people, but when I can't I go on this guilt thing thinking that if I was a good friend I'd find a way. Why am I supposed to solve other peoples problems when I have a hard enough time dealing with my own?

timmerb timmerb
51-55, M
2 Responses Feb 18, 2008

YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON, you give what you can when you can, please dont feel guilty because you cant always help in ways that you are unable to, you only have so much of YOU to give, you must also think of YOURSELF, anyone who knows and loves you will understand this......sometimes we think we must always put others first, but by always doing this we drain OURSELF and inevitably have nothing left to give do what you can to help but also remember your only human and wont always be able to solve EVERYONES problems.....that does NOT make you a bad person!!

it is a hard thing to deal with, and their is nothing to feel guilty about, i mean if you had the money you know you would lend it.. don't feel guilty about it because you are doing what you can to help, sometimes its a burden and it becomes to much.. afterall your only human, and hopefully telling us about this releases some of them, sometimes when you get overburdened it's ok to take some time for yourself, just dont let yourself feel guilty for something you can't handle. hope this helps and good luck.