My Son and His Derpession of Ten Years

rozmostafavi,
There is only one hope that I can think of -- and that's to make sure your son knows that you care for him no matter what. Be there for him. There's a fine balance between being supportive and being pushy. I don't know how my friends managed it, but they got me through some of my worst times. In that process, I somehow learned to survive despite the crippling effects of depression. Today was one of the days I couldn't get out of bed. I slept crappy and I'm so tired. Even though I didn't feel up to talking to anyone, I know people that I can call on.
If your son has suffered for 10 years, there is little chance of it just "going away". It's a matter of him accepting the condition and doing his best to live with it day by day. To have someone he trusts and who will put up with his mood swings without judgment is a support I dare not ask anyone for, but some have offered to me and it has made all the difference, even when I am feeling completely worthless.
What went wrong? I say it's the luck of the draw. Why do some people get arthritis? or migraines? This depression stuff supposedly runs in families, but there's not much history of it in my tree. But know that it is very real to the person experiencing it. Some pretend just to get attention and those people make me so angry.
The best advice I can give you is to help your son to take one day at a time -- one hour at a time if necessary. I feel like I have a pathetic existence, but I have a lot to give. This polar opposite thinking is all part of depression -- and part of the fight for survival. As terrible as today was for me, I'm oddly determined to try again tomorrow because I know people care.

I truely sorry about your son, once depression takes hold it's very hard to shake it off, believe me I know.