Trying To Live

I have 3 wonderful, beautiful babies. But their father has cancer. Stage 4. We recently lost our place. He is constantly sick, so can't really help with the kids. And i just feel so overwhelmed. I NEVER have time to myself. Its always about him and the kids. Im also the type of person that puts everyones needs before my own. I see myself going down hill. And don't know how to stop
MePlus391 MePlus391
18-21, F
1 Response Dec 15, 2012

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It is hard when we have to be the caretaker, and no one cares for our needs. But, you as a caretaker do need to care for yourself, if you don't you will burn yourself out, and won't be able to care for anyone else. Give yourself permission to take some me time. It could be going for a walk by yourself, going out with a friend for lunch or a coffee, doing a hobbie you like for an hour, or pampering yourself with a facial mask, manicure and a nice soothing warm bath. I actually brought one of those massaging chairs, I lay it up right on my bed, light some candles and play soft music while I'm getting my massage, it's cheaper than seeing a message therapist, and you can do it in the comfort of your home. It completly relaxes me.
So do take time out for yourself, so you can reduce the stress in your life, or have it not affect you so badly. Don't feel guilty, all of us caretakers need to do it, so we can continue caring for others.