Really Need Honest Advice

I have been on and off with my ex for four years. From day one I knew he was cheap I didn't have a problem with it at first but now I do. He never bought me anything not even for valentine day or Christmas.He says you don't have to buy a person gifts just to prove you love them I agree but receiving a gift every now and then want hurt. In a relationship I believe in talking to my boyfriend everyday,seeing my boyfriend as much as I can being there for bf mentally physically spiritually. He doesn't like to talk on the phone so we don't talk at all on the phone then all he wanna do is text he dont even like going out and I told him it want hurt for us to go out and spend some quality time together. He says I'm not considering his feelings??? To me it just feels like he's not ready for a relationship. I asked him why he never bought me anything especially for valentine day his response was I know that he don't like to buy anything and the reason why he didn't buy me anything for valentine day is because he didn't know I wanted anything I was so hurt when he said that. What female wouldn't want anything on that day. He keeps saying I don't love him because I'm trying to change him how could I not love him when I want to spend every waking moment with him. I feel like he don't love me because he could never be a man and pick up the phone for about 30 minutes and talk to me he never offered to take me anywhere and that hurts my feelings. He offered one time to go out with my sister and I but he said he didn't have any money so I had to pay. He's making me out to be the bad person when it's him. I can't be in a relationship with him I just can't. I know I deserve better
An Ep User An EP User
1 Response Jan 11, 2013

I think you've made your decision on not being in a relationship with him. I do think you deserve better, I think every woman deserves to be made to feel like a queen, like she's the only one, and I think you deserve that. I think you weren't asking for material things, I think you asking for some of his time. You know what you want, and it is only you who can tell whether you want this guy in particular. But with what I've been through, I realized that a person who cares for you, gives their time to you; and you shouldn't waste your time with someone who doesn't want to be with you. I can always listen if you need someone to talk to.