For Those Who Feel Down More Often Then Not:

The number one thing I see on here is depression, what a tough topic to cover…

It affects all ages, it affects people to different extents, and each person is unique.

I’ll try to cover things that will help EVERYONE who is feeling down and I really hope I make an impact on you, or at least give you something to look at…

Depression is this dark cloud of negativity that envelopes your very soul. It quickly shuts out that candle light of something you would call hope and pull you closer to the dark void, away from friends and family, away from happy relationships… away from any reason to move on…

That being said. Let me add some gasoline to that candle with some tips on how to deal with depression:

1) You cannot do it alone:

It’s like trying to fight an army with a pocket knife, you need guns…
The biggest gun is a Coach, this usually is a therapist who knows you well and has worked with you on reaching your goals… I understand a lot of people may not want to or cannot afford one. The next best thing is a trusted friend or family member who is there with you to cheer you up, listen to you vent, and help you follow the rest of the steps I have for you….

Another weapon is EP… While there are a ton of Debbie downers and trolls… There are diamonds in the rough, genuine people who care. Large hearts that just want to see people happy. While they may look a little silly, like a flower power hippy. That positive energy is a great tool to motivate you. Find them, be their friend and talk… its easy.

2) You cannot start to change, without the Desire to change.

Sometimes it’s easier to give up. (I can’t do it) its over.. other times you might say “I’m trying.” That’s good, but it gives you an out (well I tried) No you need to visualize what you want to be. Look in the mirror at the beautiful face. Think about who you should be, the real you… THAT is your goal and you are going to get there.

3) Drugs are a treatment, not a cure.

Take all the pills you want. In the end you are going to be addicted and still sad. Its just like taking cough syrup… it does not fix you, it just makes you stop coughing. The CURE, is you, taking control of your brain and getting rid of the triggers. People should not first look for medicine to fix their problem. Its a treatment you need to be in the right mindset

If you are still depressed and blame the medicine you will never change...

If a doctor gives you medicine, its for the hormones not to make you happy. I don't think anyone should quit their prescription, but maybe they can reduce it over time
4) Identify the trigger:

Generally we don’t get depressed because of nothing, usually something happened in the past, or even childhood and you repressed it. Either way, something today, triggers pain from the past and causes you to regress into a pit of despair and anguish. Being able to identify the trigger on the gun will not fix you, but you can practice having control over it. Maybe being alone triggers it… So next time you are alone… use one of these:

5) Non-drug treatments when you are starting to feel it:

Music, Not “I wanna cut my self and die.” But something up beat that you can tap your feet to. Rhythmic music . it does not have to be GANGNAM STYLE ;) even though I do insist! But when you start feeling down, fight it! Tune it out and have some fun.

Carry a Diary or Journal: Every day write about the GOOD in your life, whither its I found a quarter on the ground, or I made someone happy on EP… whatever it is, BEFORE you go to bed EVERY night, write about the good things…
Every morning when you wake up , read it… I know this is hard to keep a habit but YOU CAN DO IT. Not only will it t rigger positive memories when you are sad, but it will remind you of who is in charge!

Jayfett from EP brought up Meditation.. A very good thing to try, just sit down and practice breathing... its a good way to unravel a bunch of thoughts and put them in order.. To add to it.. I found "chanting" works too. i know it sound silly but that rhythmic chanting like the Buddhist really does some amazing things to ones chaos. that's an example...

Do positive things on EP. EP is full of hate some times, but you can make a change, you can look for people to help and it will make you smile.. it does for me…

6) Things you should do everyday

Eat healthy (get away from the fats salts, and sugars and look for healthier alternatives to fast food . It does amazing things to the brain to help fight depression (Like AMMO for your gun)
Workout.. I know its hard to get off yer butt. But seriously you will feel soo good within days of getting a routine.. even if it’s a walk around the block once a day to start. Cardio makes it better

7) You need to be consistent

Lastly there Is no miracle drug or person that can fix you, only you can do it, and to be happy and free forever you gotta fight it everyday.
No miracle guy or girl is going to fix it (look at the questions we see about depressed people in relationships)
No wonder drug is going to fix it (illegal or not)
I hope I helped.. It helped me, let me know if you need anything!

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5 Responses Jan 18, 2013

Very solid and wise advice. And you must DO something!! Anything. The act of even taking a shower everyday to some can be a turning point.
How you think becomes your perceptions. Perceptions become your reality.
So to get better, start thinking differently.
"No problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it."
-A. Einstein.

I typed in, depression, and this site came up. This is what the site was intended for. I think you have a very good insight, as to what depression is.
I am lucky to have some fantastic friends and they really are a gift.
The fact that you offer to help others in the same situation, shows a kind character. I always feel better in the knowledge that, no matter how awful I feel, I can still reach out to others when they need a helping hand.
I'm glad I read this and feel it will help a lot of others.

All good tips, most important is being consistent and that is the toughie. I am doing a positive mantra everyday, and it is helping.

Good advise. I'm near sixty and have fought chronic sever depression my whole life. Despite it, I had a good career, have a good marriage of 38 years, and three children. I've been through every family of antidepressant there is. In bad times, they helped. In good time, cognitive therapy was much more helpful. A good therapist is a must.

Eat right, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and right thinking are the keys.

Good luck to all.

thank you Greg , very insightful full of common sense , sound advice and most of all very caring