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Misunderstood

I believe that depression is one of the most misunderstood disorders out there. Those who do not battle it believe that those who do can just "shake it off" or make it go away if they do A, B, and C.

I hate it when people tell me I look blue all the time. I hate it when they tell me what to do because they don't understand what I go through. I feel like no one understands me.

I also hate the friends and boyfriends who have left me because of my depression.

dancer2011 dancer2011 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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thank you all!<br />
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I have had people tell me to just pray it off too. And yeah, it doesn't work.

Post Script: Depression doesn't go away in an instant. There is no magic pill or cure for depression. Sometimes you just have to get through it if you can't get out of it. The suggestions that I offered above are not meant to cure depression, but those things have made it a lot easier for me to deal with it. I hope they do the same for you.

I have been through a major depressive episode before and was on the brink of suicide two years ago. I used to see a shrink and was on meds -- fluoxetine and Risperdal. If it weren't for the love and kindness of my friends, I wouldn't be here to type this comment. <br />
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I agree with you: depression is not a feeling that you can simply shake off or pray away (When I was depressed, a lot of people told me that I just needed to pray and I hated it. Prayer did help me but it wasn't the cure). I still struggle with depression from time to time. However, I am aware that this is just a feeling that tends to skew my perception of reality towards the negative. It doesn't have to possess me. There is power in awareness.<br />
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How do I deal with depression nowadays? I reach out to people instead of shutting them out. I allow myself to be loved. It's a good thing you're reaching out to people through EP. But I suggest that you reach out to people who are near to you, with whom you could talk face to face. <br />
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Next is I try to find something that I can enjoy. I try to have fun despite what I feel. I watch my thoughts and do my best not to indulge in self-pity. When I'm depressed, a nagging, little voice inside me seems to tell me that ugly and worthless. Since I'm aware of what depression is, I argue with that voice. Whenever I feel ugly or worthless, I tell myself that it's my depression talking to me and it's not necessarily true.<br />
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I suggest that you surround yourself with loving and supportive people. If your friends and boyfriends left you because of your depression, they may not be worth-keeping because anyone who truly loves you will stick with you through thick and thin. Surely, there are a lot of caring people around. You just need to look around. I'm lucky to have found a best friend who helped me turn my life around in a matter of a year.<br />
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And this is are the things that I hope you would do -- honor, appreciate, cherish and love yourself and allow yourself to be loved. Acknowledge your needs and make sure that you meet them. Take responsibility for your happiness and believe and remember that you deserve to be happy. <br />
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I hope this helps. Take good care of yourself.

Guys are ********. A large number of them, anyway. And people are stupid.