When speaking with my therapist today I came to a bit of a realization. I don't think I know how to be happy. This is tough. But I seem to over-catastrophize many things, creating horrible scenarios in my head to feed my need to feel pain. If there is no pain, my mind creates it. How messed up is that?!? It feels weird to realize that about myself. It's sort of sad, but it gives me a place to start to build a healthier future. I want to be able to be happy and hopeful.
lougirl88 lougirl88
26-30, F
7 Responses Aug 18, 2014

I do that too.

When u said "if there is no pain, my mind creates it" I know exactly what u mean. Although I am te exact opposite of a depressed person, I am in fact quite happy and worry free compared to most people. But even though I make the best out of a bad situation, so therefore most things not me a great, I create pain inside my head. And the conclusion I have come to is that the pain has to exist because if it didn't then we would probably go crazy. Our brains need a balance. Although I have no advice for your depression, you are not abnormal for creating pain inside your head. I will say that

Thank you

I was the same way. Then, I saw The Secret. It changed my life. Watch it on Netflix and get The Magic to practice The Secret.

Same here!! x(

Happiness is a practice. You have to train.Just like exercise, you will not be an athlete on your first run. You have to keep pushing yourself -for your goal. <br />
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In my case and yours our goal is happiness. Sometimes you will get a cramp but does that stop you from running the next time, no. Try try try and keep moving. Also look up cognitive therapy

I understand this. For those of us who've battled depression for a long time, we have these well worn paths that our thoughts take that are hard to break out of. But I believe -- from some fledgling steps of my own -- that it is possible to break out of them.

Let me suggest a different way to look at it. Your intellect has been working so hard for so long to explain, account for, and find a way out of the pain that it is hard for it to process things in any different way. It's a habit of thought that is hard to break.

I'm starting to work with the idea of intentionally NOT analyzing the pain when I feel it. Because I'm learning that there is no useful destination to that path of thoughts... I can't think my way out of it. Only through letting go of thoughts can we change the patterns. And substituting them... so for example when I think of being "rejected" or "disrespected" I use that as a trigger to think ... "how can I love them?", and I (sometimes) can turn it around.

It is a habit to be in the mindset, because it is the place I am at most often. But I think you are right -- I can break this pattern!
Thanks for the encouragement! It's going to be a process :)

Therapy might take a while before you see improvement. Just be patient.

I've been in therapy for about 2 years now... But I guess it's just something I need