Tired Of All The Anger

It seems lately I am so angry about everything and everyone. Maybe it's because I am naive or ultra-sensitive, but it is making me sick - physically and mentally. After speaking to my therapist, it helped, but I still feel this extreme and unhealthy anger. People ask why I am angry, and I tell them "It's because we live in a world where we treat one another like an enemy. If we don't like the way they are dressed, we ridicule them. If they are not a certain race, we make them sub-human. If they are poor, we say they have no gumption.

Well, it's going to kill me. I am so sensitive to the world around me, that I cannot go out of my house unless I have prepared myself for days or hours ahead of time. Sometimes even on this website, people have been cruel. I was told to "get over it" - my depression or to even go ahead and kill myself. How cruel. Don't anyone care about anyone else anymore? I don't know and I'm getting where I don't care.

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5 Responses Feb 20, 2010

Shadow111 your comment is one of the most profound answers I have received in a long time. I am going to print it out and take it to my therapist. Thanks for the good old-fashioned common sense.

Allan Wallace writes - <br />
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"Righteous hatred" is in the same category as "righteous cancer" or "righteous tuberculosis". All of them are absurd concepts.<br />
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This does not mean that one should never take action against aggression or injustice! Instead, one should try to develop an inner calmness and insight to deal with these situations in an appropriate way. We all know that anger and aggression give rise to anger and aggression. One could say that there are three ways to get rid of anger: kill the opponent, kill yourself or kill the anger - which one makes most sense to you?

Thanks for all your comments. Life can be so hard, even harder when you are depressed. My heart and positive vibes go out to all of you.

I also have this deep caring for people and animals around the world. People like us are special and maybe you should try and concentrate on that. I think we are always going to be kind of lonely unless we meet the other specials out there, or maybe I am wrong. :)<br />
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Have you ever heard of Katie Byron? She woke up one day on the floor in a halfway house after another drug-induced episode and had the most incredible spiritual experience, which cannot truely be described in words, but she saw something that has helped thousands of people.<br />
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from that experience she has developed a method that helps people drop negative thought patterns and she calls it "The Work." Basically it works by having four questions one asks oneself. The example I am using questions involves feelings of a guy not having a girlfriend, but you can question any feeling you are having that is giving you pain.<br />
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Question 1: Is it true that I want a girlfriend? Yes.<br />
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Question 2: Can I know without a shadow of a doubt that I want a girlfriend? No <br />
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(If the answer is no then you will have another question so start again or if yes go to question 3)<br />
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Question3: How do I feel knowing this? I feel like I have the power to choose.<br />
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Question 4: How would I feel dropping this feeling? I will feel liberated and confident and because of that will probably get a girlfriend, but if not I am still happy.<br />
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Lastly turn the earlier statement around, i.e. "I want a girlfriend" becomes "I want people to love me the way I love myself" <br />
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I am no expert in teaching you the technique so rather go here http://www.thework.com/thework.asp#howto and read for yourself.<br />
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Good luck with letting go of your struggle.

I feel exactly like you. I have become a recluse because no one cares anymore. It seems everytime I reach out my hand, it gets slapped. I feel like the world is crude and greedy and self-serving. I hope it gives you some solace in knowing there are a few of us out here who feel like you do. Everyone goes through problems in their life, ups and downs abound. I pray you have more ups than downs in the future. Send me a message if you want to.