Maybe Most -if Not All- Women Have This Insecurity Thing

I don't mean to generalize; I just realize that every lady friend I have had a heart-to-heart talk with have confessed to having even a minute semblance of insecurity. I'm not saying that men do not combat this, but it's more prevalent in women, methinks.

Mine would have to be for my physical looks, my personality and my mind.

I guess it's rooted to me wanting to BE more, to be better. And I understand that - but I just want to know why must it feel so bad, especially at that time of month, to look at mirrors or to like myself?

I've been called beautiful (lmao, not just by family members, haha) though mostly, it's kind of hard to believe it, you know?

I keep wondering "maybe I'll be happier if I reach my ideal weight" but in my bestfriend's case, she's already there but she's still as insecure -if not- moreso than she was when she weight almost twice her weight now.

So, is insecurity innate in us women?

Haha that sounds kinda sad, but I do want to know what you think.

sodancewithme sodancewithme
26-30, F
1 Response Mar 7, 2010

I think that because of the world, and the way we are expected to be, we are bound to have insecurities.. it's so hard not to, regardless of how beautiful, or skinny, or tall, or whatever you are... EVERYONE does face it at some point or another.. I think it's a constant battle, and we as individuals have to choose whether or not we're gonna let it get the best of us.. I know sometimes it does for me. I've been reading a book about it, called So Long, Insecurity, by Beth Moore.. it's great, and puts alot of things in perspective. It's hard being a woman, but I think one important thing is don't compare yourself to others.