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Mom At 18

First and foremost becoming a mom at 18 was one of the hardest things I ever experienced. Trust me, I wasn't received with open arms 

and congratulatory smiles and hugs when the news got out. I was the good girl. Cheerleader, good grades in school, was going to go to college and WHAM. I was told that I was going to give the baby up or get an abortion. I did neither. I wasn't proud of the situation that I was in and didn't keep my child to spite anyone. I felt that I had made a choice to have sex without protection and the consequence was a baby and I needed to step up to the plate and accept the responsibility. My son's birth was a happy/sad event. My mom was torn with love for me and my child, but sticking with my dad's controlling attitude. There weren't any big parties to celebrate his birth. The first 8 years of my son's life was very very difficult. I worked hard and had to grow up SUPER fast. I learned quick who my friends were. There were rare nights of girls fun, or dating. I cried many many nights, but it was all worth it. My son serving his country in the military and we have an incredibly close relationship. He made me an incredibly strong person.  I have two additional younger sons, am married, went to college (am close to finishing graduate school). Like I said, it was hard, but I wouldn't change a thing. It made me who I am, today. 

disguised disguised 36-40, F 24 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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Wow! You are such a hero to me. I was pregnant when I was 21 but decided to abort it because I'm too selfish for myself and my future. Do I regret it? Yes and I'm not happily married with my husband!

My mother had me at 19 but got pregnant at 18. I am now 16 and from a child's point of view, keeping your baby was the best thing you could ever do! Being adopted would be tough and not knowing my real mo would kill me!

wow, most people will give up their babies if they make a (no offense) stupid decision. Even though I don't know you I'm proud you kept him, raised him, and are still very close to him!

'twas a good choice to not abort the child. Your son's very lucky to have as a mom.

I became a mum at 18 too. It's not easy but I would not change a thing, I love my son with all my heart and would do anything for him. I was also told to have an abortion by my now ex boyfriends parents, but my parents were supportive and still are.

I was 18 when I had my daughter who is now 12. My family situation was a bit different, I had a lot of support, but It's never easy. It sounds like you did a good job, you're a good mother, and you never gave up!

Girls in my high school who were pregnant mostly gave up their children. I am so proud of you since you weren't like the others and kept yours! I'm also glad you shared your story with us so that other girls struggling with whether to keep their kids will look at this story and reconsider. <br />
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Blessings,<br />
SF

I just want to congratulate you on your decision. I don't care what anyone say's. The facts are like you said, you made a wrong decision, and you were grand enough to stick to the consequences and not kill a beginning life? I am male and 17 years ago my girlfriend got pregnant. we were also put to the choice of abortion, we decided for no! Today we are married, and have a very handsome, very intelligent 17 years old son. And everyday when I see him, can you imagine my feelings? <br />
He wouldn't be here if we had made the other decision!

well sounds like u turn a mistake into a blessing big hugs for steping up to the plate not many do now days so yes love that u did not let a mistake define u and ur child children are roses never should be plucked from God no matter how they where conseved . big hugs for being good woman at young age!!!!!

well sounds like u turn a mistake into a blessing big hugs for steping up to the plate not many do now days so yes love that u did not let a mistake define u and ur child children are roses never should be plucked from God no matter how they where conseved . big hugs for being good woman at young age!!!!!

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of view tho. i am sure you did a lot of growing up and matureing in that length of time<br />
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to be honest...i felt a huge lump in my throat, i felt like cryin and im just so amazed and proud of you. you are in my prayers :-)

yes being a mother is not easy, especially a young mother! im glad u stuck it through and not let anyone keep you down. Its good to hear your about to grad soon. Keep your head up and you are a wonderful mother

oh such a good story. How old is ur child now????

Your story is truly inspiring. I see how a friend of mine who is a single mum struggle and i cant help but sympathise with her situation. she has a boy whose dad left even before he was born and is currently jobless. How she manages beats me but i admire her geatly......wish i had the couraged to do it on my own as im stuck in bad relationship. Maybe some day i will get the courage.<br />
Good to see that your life eventually turned out so well!!!!!!

Be proud of your first born and your other sons and your marriage. Be proud at your graduation but most of all be proud of yourself. I am sure you are all of those things, and rightly so, as you showed responsibility, tenacity and courage that is the hall mark of a truly moral human being. <br />
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As for your dad, well I guess at the time he had a lot of growing up to do himself. Sadly he missed an opportunity to become part of something bigger than himself, which he could have contributed to positively and allowed your mom to show the love and affection that she so obviously wanted to give. It baffles me why men can be so rigid and moralizing, as I suppose women can, but in the end it does them no good. <br />
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Have a good and happy life and rejoice in it.<br />
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From an old time Yorkshire Man in the United Kingdom.

Yes, your story is inspiring. I really salute the Women. Its fact but sad also,sex enjoy both,but it effects more to woman than man. Thank god, I did not do such things to any woman.<br />
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So you teaching to young girl - Go for sex but with contraceptive before Fix-Relationship or not-go for sex if its not Fix-Relationship.

you were wise in being selective .i know it must have been hard to let another man in<br />
after you had been hurt byt the first on.eight years probably changed your point <br />
of view tho. i am sure you did a lot of growing up and matureing in that length of time.<br />
i am happy for you that you found such a good man and father for you son in him.

aniowagirl, I met an incredible man when my son was eight and he has been an incredible father to my son. I was very selective about allowing a man in my life.

i for one am proud of you. so many young girls shirk this kind of responsability and the child suffers and is sometimes badly affected for life. sounds like you did a grat job.you were fortunate to find a <br />
guy that loved you and your child too. that can be a difficult situation also.

thank you for the comments. My dad did eventually accept my situation, but he didn't feel sorry for me and made me stand on my two feet. I was quite angry with him for many years. I try to tell young girls, that are pregnant, to think and to realize that there's tons of responsibility in raising a child and if you do decide to keep your child, life becomes about them. Your child comes first, but many do that see this and think it's going to be easy. I made mistakes along the way, but they became the things that made me who I am today. : )

Being an educated person at an older age who is single, without anyone to depend on you, not even a pet dog, is just as hard. I cried many many times b/c of that. Well, we have different burden though.

im proud of you! being a mother and loving your child is something amazing, and it sounds like you did a great job.

I can empathize. So sorry your dad didn't welcome his grandson with open arms. I suppose he got over that?