i was 18, i was in a relationship for 3 years with someone i loved at the time and thought i would one day marry and have kids with, we had already talked about it and had started looking for houses to move in together, so i was in a very stable relationship(so i thought at the time).
i found out i was pregnant, i thought about what i should do, and it seemed like the wrong thing to get an abortion, when the child had 2 parents who loved each other and wanted to make a life together. i wouldnt want to ever get an abortion, but i cant say that id never have one, depending on the circumstance i couldnt rule it out, anyway in this case i didnt think it was the way to go.
the childs father didnt agree, he said alot of horrible things like he would say it was not his child, i should abort it, etc. he was young, i dont hold a grudge that he said those things, he was probably just scared. after not too long he got used to the idea and was as happy as any other dad to be about the baby.
so the baby came, we both love her like nothing else, and have no regrets.
we broke up after a while, for various reasons, we had a pretty clean split and dont fight much. we have shared custody and everyone is happy. he is a fantastic father.
i think having my daughter really gave me direction when i had none. i have never thought much about the future. maybe that would have come in time, but i think where i would be now if i didnt have her, and i imagine i would have a sad life.
she is my best friend, she is so smart and funny, i adore her. i wish i got to spend more time with her its hard because i work full time so only see her at night and every second weekend.
i know sometimes people judge me for being a 'single mother', it annoys me because im not ashamed about my child. i cant help the fact that her dad didnt want to marry me. yes i had pre-marital sex, but seriously i dont know a single person who hasnt done the same.
im proud of her and im proud of myself because i really try to teach her all i can, and it shows, shes awesome.