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I Become Friends With a Teacher

Whether It's Intentional Or Not Depends

By: chococat159
Written on August 27th, 2011
Age: 18-21
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  • Horses1996

    Using friendship to manipulate teachers is not necessarily a good idea, but I'm sure that in your situation, it's not as bad as it seems. You are obviously capable of making sure it doesn't go too far.



    You say that you're friends with many of your teachers. How friendly are you? Do you just say hello when you see them, or do you talk to them outside of class. What do you usually talk to them about? For the teachers that you intentionally made friends with, how did you go about doing that?

    Dec 27, 2011
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    • chococat159

      I say hi to them in the halls and basically treat them like human beings, not teachers. Students are sometimes disrespectul towards teachers because they don't remember that they have emotions too. I respect those and ask them how they're doing, make small talk with them, etc. I don't often go out of my way to talk to them, but I will if I see them in the halls outside of class. I just talk to them like we're equals, I just happen to be a student and they just happen to be a teacher. I can relate to them on many levels often.

      If I want to be friends with one, I give it a month usually just to get their vibe. I make sure to be nice and give them the idea that I'm one of the more respectful, adult students. If they mention something about their homelife, I ask them about it so they know I'm interested in the person underneath the teachings. In the end they'll treat me like an equal too, like they'll talk about their personal life or if they're frustrated about something. I think it's a better environment if you and the teacher see eye-to-eye.

      My dad is a college president and knows a lot of people, so I'm pretty good at talking to adults from seeing him do it. I'm not so good at talking to teenagers and younger, but I can keep a conversation going for hours if I'm around adults. I just direct that towards teachers now.

      Dec 28, 2011
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    • Horses1996

      I feel that way too, sometimes. When I'm talking to my peers, many of them just want to talk about boys, clothes and makeup. I'm not interested in that. When I'm talking to my teachers, I find they're more mature and I enjoy their company more.

      On the other hand, I don't really talk to my teachers much about their personal life. It could be that they just don't know me well enough, or it might be the culture in our school (for some reason, the teachers seem a little reluctant to get close to the students), but they generally try to keep the relationship very professional. When I talk to teachers outside of class (which I like to do and I do very often), then I usually talk to them about things related to their subject or about learning in general. I'd really like them to open up and talk to me about their family and their feelings. I just don't know how to make them feel comfortable with that. I've been with many of these teachers for the past 4 years, but they still seem to feel more comfortable speaking with their colleagues than with me.

      Feb 10, 2012
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