I Believe Conceit, Arrogance And Pride Have Their Consequences, Especially If Initiated By Education

i read this and i don't even know you yet~you have definitely given me a great first impression of yourself, mr. sir! the Bible itself says that even lucifer fell from heaven because of his pride, and even if people only believe in the Bible for its good advice and wisdom passed through the generations, the message is the same; pride cometh before a fall. thank you for being courageous enough to stand in the truth, to speak the truth in love, and to share your real world experience with those who may have or may not have had that "fall" yet. you could have saved many lives and many years of folly in many peoples' lives by writing this:)

This was a very courageous and honest revelation, I admire you for it.

Further more I will try to learn from it.

Thank you for this jmo.

Ari.

it takes a lot of courage and open-mindedness to look inside yourself, recognize and address your own flaws...especially when you put them out there for everyone to see too. Whether we are intellectually superior or inferior, we all learn and grow throughout life, and I believe many of life's lessons can't be learned through books or research, but through experience instead....especially those experiences that cause us to look deeper within ourselves and give us insight into who we are as individuals.

I also feel that accepting others and allowing them to express their own personal opinions without "ripping their guts out" for their ignorance shows that a person is self-assured enough in their own beliefs to not feel threatened by someone who sees things differently.

It's always hard to see those we care about making the wrong decisions (or what we feel are the wrong decisions) for themselves. But, as I said previously, mistakes are part of living....they are part of those experiences which make each of us unique individuals. I have made so many mistakes in my life....some more than once, lol. Yet I believe I have grown and learned from each one. They may not necessarily have changed my behavior or given me the strength to not make the same mistakes again, but they have allowed me deeper insight into me, and I think getting to really know ourselves is one of life's greatest challenges...at least for me ;)

Thanks for sharing so much....I have even more respect and admiration than I did before! xoxo

well said!

This really touched me, as it looked like I was reading something from the back of my mind. I think a lot of people know when they are arrogant, but don't allow themselves to believe it. It takes looking at some very disturbing parts of oneself to realize the bad parts

That was a courageous post...to tell about your thoughts and the change in your pattern of thinking... I think you are a good soul and thats all i can say....I am glad that you are my friend!

hats off to you, dear friend! i'm not good with words. but i loved it. i really appreciate this. thanks for sharing your thoughts. <3

I enjoyed your story. I think I have similar flaws and they take a lot of thoughtfulness and active thinking to try to listen and learn and share with others. I remember being told in a classroom in the 7th grade that we were selected by virtue of our iqs to be in this special class and much was expected. I think I took it to heart. Not at all wise--childish in fact. Wiser now. Good luck to us both.

Hey JMO



Umm so this is out of context, but I just curious, do you know about emphath people? Because from your stories you sound like one (and I'm one so I can tell). If you haven't already I think you may want to look at that and probably you can understand about yourself and the helpless defeated emotion you felt when people around you upset and how tp control it. Have a nice sunshine-y day on UK (^^ゞ

I find the bit of wisdom you have shared here to be greater in importance than all that man's educational system can offer. Seeing to the core of your greatest failures and understanding the things in yourself that make you susceptible means you no longer have to repeat them.If only we all had the eyes to see,the ears to listen.......

Protecting yourself is not a failure nor is it something to feel guilty about Yes, I believe we are supposed to help each other but not to the point of hurting ourselves.

You care for people, and you want to protect them from themselves.

That's neither conceit nor arrogance, that's noble :)

My friend, I do believe you are being too hard on yourself, or at least that's how it reads to me.



The retroscope is 20/20. It is easy to see the error of our ways when we have the benefit of knowledge that we did not possess at the time we made those decisions. The most enjoyable and effective way to live is not to regret, but to promise ourselves that we will learn from our experiences and not make the same poor decisions over and over.



Self-actualization is a luxury that not many people have. The fact that some of your choices bother you this much, particularly as they affect the people that are closest to you, is a sign that you are far less damaged and far less conceited than you might think.



Never abandon who you are or how you got here. You may not be perfect, but none of us are. Conceit and arrogance are only bad when they exist without the balance of humility and retrospection. You have demonstrated all of these. You are whole.



I too struggle with how much of my perspective I share. To some, my perspective is prickly like a porcupine and distasteful like sour milk. However, if I don't share who I am, then how can I truly trust the friendships that I have? Moreover, perhaps my perspectives are too edgy or too rigid. The friends that I have earned trust me and I trust them in return. I challenge my friends and they challenge me. It allows us all to evolve.



Bravo to your post. Bravo to your self-realization. Never be afraid of who you are and don't be surprised if you learn that your close friends know more about you that you've been overtly willing to share. You may learn that they accept more of your perspective than you know, even if you disagree.

Well said sweetie. It takes a lot of strength to see this in yourself, & to own it. <3<3<3

Not everyone can stand the truth and I appreciate a friend like you who cares that much. You gave me advice and I feel honoured that you trust me not to feel upset but glad about your caring friendship.

Like your other friends...I just appreciate you sharing this with us.

Good post- I hope we can learn from this too. Not morbid at all. I learnt a hard lesson in life too - similar- and now I hope to be a better person from that experience and from your story here too. Thank you.

Well I am one of those people who isn't smart enough to argue my case and there was a time when I used to look up to people who were obviously smarter than me, who had high academic achievement in the sense that they were better, more important and more deserving of respect and happiness. I know now that everyone is important, regardless of intellect. People are like cogs in a machine I think, you need all kinds big and small to make the world work, even the small cogs who look and feel insignificant are important. If you were to remove the smaller cogs the bigger ones would also cease to work. I believe that we all have a purpose, experiences also have a purpose, including the uncomfortable "crash" of consequences that arise from the occasions when we mess up or make the wrong choices. All this is just a fact of human existance and noone is immune. All we can do is try to do out best, learn from our experiences and be there for others when they are experiencing tough times. :o)

Aww Jmo, I think you were TOTALLY brave in writing this all out. Honesty like this is rare and valuable. I'm so proud that you are making such strides in coming to understand yourself better and others as well..... I TOTALLY admire you for all of it! :)



Thanks for letting us share in what you've learned too cause as one learns so do we all if we pay attention.

Actually, I have been going back and forth about this recently.



I've been meeting new people in casual settings and in the face of wildly differing opinions I hold back from telling them how I feel from fear of unnecessary confrontations.



That has been my approach for most of my life and thinking about it, I realize the exceptions are when I really care about the issue and the person(s). It got me thinking if that is why people think of me as aloof and detached -- and why I have many budding friendships fizzle into mere memory.



I'm reading your post as a warning to a dear friend (friends) of what might happen if they go on with a planned action, but my comment is what I actually get from your post. I hope you'll forgive my wandering mind :)