Trying To Break My Anger Cycle

thank you for letting us see a glimpse of real life, outward and inward.

Reading about your experience and your thoughts reminded me, that the willingness to learn, to grow and change is very helpful in life. The balance between truth (what is inconsiderate and thoughtless and maybe an expression of lack of respect and love, what I do not like or tolerate) and love (people are more important than things, we are all learning and in need of patience, we need help from others to change...) is an important lesson in life and somehow posed over and over again by trivial situations. God is merciful and patient with us. We need it. And others need our mercy and patience too.

Keep on - you are on a good track perseverer :)

Thank you, flockofturtles, for your wise counsel.

You believe in God He says to "believe in Him FIRST" and Mathew 7:7 says this is one of "Gods promises" ASK,SEEK,KNOCK ask it will be given,seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you. Pray what God promises but we must commit, Like Christ gave His all for us on that Cross we must commit to God by reading and talking with God everyday its like the more time you give Him The more He will take care of you.(If you want to remove this anger) you must keep surrendering that issue to God ASK Him for help and BELIEVE in God read Gods word and educate yourself its for your future you can be an example for your husband and family. In Jesus name flockofturtles

A superb domestic vignette, perseverer, beautifully constructed.



I hope You have been able to keep singing through your various travails of late.



And Thank You for introducing me to the mind-mechanism of "thought-stacking". Now I am aware of this process and recognise it clearly in myself, I will do my best not to engage in it any longer. *It doesn't help*!

I have the same problem as you when it comes to sudden bouts of anger. Actually perseverer,I learned that Anger is a Spirit which is not of God, but of the Enemy. Proverbs 29:22 A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression.



Regardless of the reason for anger, the Bible has answers on what causes anger, examples of good (righteous) and bad (unrighteous) anger and how we should deal with it as Christians. Our earnest prayer should be that God changes our heart as we allow Him to mold us into a vessel fit to carry His gospel to the world. It's hard thou cause every person gets angry at one time or another.

Thank you for sharing this reflection, crafted. I feel that I have failed to appreciate the impact of my emotions on others.

Joy is lost in these tiny moments of flared frustration and angst. I suffer from it too. Our emotions have such a big impact on those around us that it is well worth the journey of finding ways to simmer our reactions and look for the positive.

OnlyOneChiquita, yesterday I did an anger management seminar and I immediately identified with the anger cycle. In a nutshell we were taught to recognize when we are in the build up phase and think of ways to stop the negative thoughts we tend to have at such a time.



Today I came to my classroom and found three of my new chairs were missing, immediately I felt angry. I still have lot to do before the children return on Monday. But I thought about what I learned yesterday and investigated without accusing anyone. But even so, I knew someone had taken those chairs out and noone was owning up. And I had to find replacements. It took me half the day. I was meant to be organizing my curriculum for my special student who is intellectually disabled and autistic. So now I will have to come up tonight and work all night to catch up on the time. I had planned to go with my family to the 20/20 Cricket game, but now that is impossible.



So you see how frustration builds up! If I am not careful, I could explode over something really trivial. So, I am trying to keep my mood up by singing and by thinking about how much I love this school and don't want the staff to be scared of me. I hope that helps!

Shepherdess, you are a sweet heart and I love you! Thank you for helping me to feel less monstrous!

If you figure it out, I hope that you will share it with the rest of us. My daughters (and their friends) have a habit of taking my hair brush and my make up off my dresser. Despite the fact that we have several other brushes in the restroom and having their own make up bags.



Every time it happens, I totally lose it.



After the fact, when I calm down and reflect on my behavior, I am horrified.

A little ranting and raving over not being able to find the brown sugar is just human. NOW, if you turned around and said to the kids and hubs, "I wish you never were born" with an evil looking grimace, THAT would be different. See the difference? You're OK Mom, it's just life!

Thank you both for your comments. Neeran, today I became especially aware of the self talk I go through. In this story I was trying to convey, through my own experience, how unfair and how irrational it is. And while I need to battle with it every day, it does not hurt to pause for a moment and become more aware of what is happening and hopefully avoid those outbursts that can cause so much damage.



SouthernPlains, I value your wisdom and want to assure you that I value my blessings to the utmost depth of my being, which is why I do not want to spoil the relationships in my life by anger. Breaking the cycle is what I am trying to do. Believe me, no-one is more painfully aware of the trivialness of the triggers than I! Everything you say is so very true.

I used to fight this same battle. Daily. But it isn't worth it. Think of what you have. Family. A loving spouse. A beautiful home, the Church and community. Think of what it would be like to be without them. It was my intolerance of such trivial things that led me down the path to where I am today. And now I am paying the price. Let your anger go Perseverer. Instead, look up to everyone. Put them first, no matter what. Even when it hurts.

Yes, It' happens regularly, No matter how we tried to calm ourselves down.