My Great Niece Was Born, I Got No Call.:(Well... I see this morning, about 4 hours after it was originally posted on Facebook that my youngest niece's water broke and she was in labor. Then, about 5 hours after that post, I see that she's been in hard labor for 9 hours and they are doing a C-Section. Just now, a post appeared saying the baby is here, but they don't know weight or length. My sister-in-law was doing the posting to Facebook.
I didn't get a call. Not a peep, from anyone. Still nothing. To say that I'm devastated, is an understatement. I gave the baby shower, my husband and I spent about $400 - $500 on the baby and shower. I spent all that time making the Cheese Crates for the baby's room, out of love and caring and I didn't even get a call from my sister-in-law, letting me know what was happening. Not given the chance to go to the hospital, not allowed to be part of this experience.
This is par for the course, I guess. Since the baby shower I've only seen my sister-in-law once for a cook out celebrating my husband's and his mother's birthdays. Since the baby shower I've not received any responses to attempted communication with my youngest niece. Since the baby shower I wrote and sent a long letter to my oldest niece telling her that I miss her and love her and wish we could sit down and talk, but have not heard anything, I don't even know if she got the letter or not. Now, my Great Niece is born and I don't even get a phone call. I have to read about it on Facebook, like my sister-in-law's co-workers and neighbors.
Understand, I've been trying to communicate with my sister-in-law via Facebook, because she never returns my phone calls, doesn't reply to emails, but I've seen her showing as 'available' on Facebook chat for weeks, so I try to message her, to no avail. Now, suddenly, she is using Facebook to communicate that the baby has been born.
I think this situation confirms for me the validity of my feelings in regard to this family I've been trying to be accepted by and part of for more than 27 years now. I am treated like an inconsequential outsider, who deserves no respect, isn't included and has no real standing within the family group.
I cannot begin to describe how painful this is/has been. I'm so deeply hurt, I can't adequately put words to my feelings.
rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 Sep 12, 2011