Reducing Judgment Of Our Loved Ones

This is a simple form letter that can help heal the separation you feel from loved ones in your life. Its not easy to see that when we judge someone, that it is painful to them and to us. This form letter can transform the way you think about others and the way they react to you. If you fill in the blanks thoughtfully below, I guarantee the finished letter will bring tears to your eyes and bring you closer than you were before to someone in your life you care about. It may seem over simplistic, but it works.

Dear_____ Person’s name______ Date___________

I have felt upset and resentful toward you and have judged you for being

1. (List complaints or grievances you feel about this person)

I know that makes you sad, and that don’t want for me to feel that way. I probably can’t imagine how bad this really makes you feel. I am so sorry.

I know that you mean well. You do so much for me. You stand for

2. (One by one list counter argument this person would say about themselves if you accused them of the above complaints)

I’m so proud of you for everything you stand for. I am inspired by you to:

3. (List what you will do instead of what you are doing, actions in line with their counter arguments)

In the face of fear, doubt, and even in the bad times, I really care about you. I really want you to know how much I appreciate you and everything you stand for. You inspire me to be:

4. (List what characterists are indicated by items) # 3



jthitt jthitt
56-60, M
May 6, 2012