I am fully expecting to get flamed by the Scots for this one ! But Today I attended a very dear friends funeral , until today I never knew that in my part of Scotland it's not acceptable to attend the burial if you are female . It's ok to go to the service , it's fine to go to the wake , but attend the interment , oh no way . Despite the fact that at the service it's self there was a 50/50 mix of the sexes , when it came to the burial , women were around less than one to ten of the guys . Where it was left in no doubt to us both by muttered comments and glares , believe it or not us half a dozen women who did attend stood between 6-8 metres back from the nearest guy , that's how unwelcome we were there , now whilst my friend being buried was truly Scots , he would never have stood for us to be treated in such a way as he was both a gentle man and a gentleman , if that makes any sense . He was a great guy despite being in a reserved occupation he choose to join up anyway , was a Royal marines sniper , truly the last person you can imagine doing that job , but he'd seen a woman locally , get gunned down by a German plane in front of him , this was what made the gentlest man imaginable join up and do what he felt he needed to do . Despite over 40 years in age difference , I considered him a true friend , I will miss him so much , all I can do now is support his wife as best I can , and hope it's enough .