Double StandardsMuch of the inequality I feel is down to the way I am perceived and viewed by others, and the expectations by society to live and act to a certain standard, which differs from that of a man.
Think about this. If a young man keeps a very untidy and messy apartment, he is not judged, in fact his friends and family will laugh and joke about his 'bachelor pad', but if it is a young woman keeping a very messy apartment, her friends and family will assume she is lazy and unclean, and most likely discuss her untidiness behind her back.
If a single dad takes his son to school in an un-ironed uniform, everyone thinks wow, he's doing really well to be doing it on his own, but if a single mother does the same? Well you can only guess what is being said about her parenting abilities.
Why is a man a great dad if he takes his kids out on the weekends and pays child support, and a mother can look after her children well 24/7 and one little discretion, or raise of her voice and she is a 'bad mom'.
When a man with kids wants to go away with the boys for a weekend it's considered normal, but if a mother wants a weekend to let loose it's "shouldn't she be home with her children?"
It irritates me that if there is a social gathering or dinner party, the norm is for the women to help or at least offer to help clean up afterwards, and if there is one woman who doesn't, she is shunned and considered lazy even though the men did nothing but sit and drink beer.
NEWS FLASH! Domestic duties is not something women enjoy. It does not excite us or bring joy! Its just something that needs to be done.
If a female wishes to hang out and participate in the same activities as the men, she is branded a 's**t' by other women, and becomes a source of gossip and jealous bickering.
Quite often, men with kids assume that because we are women, we will be interested in looking after and entertaining their children for them. WE AREN'T.
I get so sick and tired of the disappointed reaction I receive from others when I don't seem to be doing exactly as a good woman should, or when I put myself before others. I'm too damn young, headstrong and selfish to conform to these feminine expectations!
We all need to give women a break!