My Intercultural Marriage
It is very simple...I am in one. It is my first.
When I was younger, when most guys of my age marry, I had had several experiences that basically turned me off to women. Not that I was turned on to guys, mind you, I was simply concerned about living day to day.
Later in life, when medical conditions improved and I had 'gotten over' the past, I tried dating. It was difficult, to say the least, because I was one of the very few men 'out there' that had never been married amongst a sea of divorcees and widows. I made my share of mistakes, but I learned. One thing I did know; I knew exactly what I wanted in a mate and, having lived a while, I had learned that race was not a barrier.
One of the ways that I was looking was through some very careful internet dating. I had signed on a service, and I was confident that they would at least find some women that I could relate to, and perhaps, one that might become my wife. To make a long story short, they did, and I did.
Yes, there are difficulties with different cultures, but then again, there are always the differences between the sexes. There are misunderstandings, sure there are. We went though premarital counselling with her pastor; he introduced me to her culture very well. He ended up marrying us.
Now, maybe there are cultures that should not marry just as there are people that should not marry even if they are from the same culture. There are some that can, though, and do. My wife is Chinese; I am Dutch/English. And it works just fine.