The Neverending Conversation

I heard this on NPR this morning.  It stopped me dead in my tracks.  The words below are just a summary of the recorded conversation but I provided a link at the bottom to the NPR story.  Please, if you are able, listen to it.  To hear the love in their voices as they tell their story is amazing.  I don't know about anyone else, but this is exactly what love is to me.  I hope I find it one day.  Enjoy...
 
Hilda Chacon and her husband, Pedro Moran-Palma, didn't have a long courtship — just 10 days, in fact.  But since meeting at a party, they “haven't stopped having fun,” Pedro says.  And that includes raising Hilda's daughter, Nadia.

The couple met 20 years ago, when Hilda, a native of Costa Rica, was visiting her sister, a student at Northern Arizona University in Flagstaff.  That's when Pedro, another student, spotted her at a party.

“I saw there was a beautiful lady sitting in this party,” Pedro recalls. “And at first I thought that you were with somebody else, so I didn't get close to you.  And then I realized that there was a guy who was bothering you.”

“I was wearing like a short skirt, and he insisted that I would go up the stairs so he would see me from behind,” Hilda says. “I was about to get into a fight with him when you came.”

Pedro apologized for the man's behavior, Hilda recalls.  “And I told you that I was divorced, that I had a kid, and I just started talking very poorly about men, saying, ‘I don't know why people get married — you have to put up with so much crap!’ ” she says.

“How come I didn't scare you?” she asks Pedro.

“I found you fascinating,” he says.  “And I was ... mesmerized, I think is the right word?  Asombrado.  And after we met, I thought about getting married.

“My friends were saying that I was crazy, but my whole body is telling me, ‘You cannot let this go,’ ” he says.  “It is hard for people to believe that we only dated for ... 10 days?”

“Yep,” Hilda says.  “And then all of a sudden, you said, ‘Well, I don't make much money ... but if you want, we could get married.’

“I thought, ‘This man is either totally crazy or has the biggest cojones on earth.’ ”

There was also something else on Hilda's mind: how her daughter, Nadia, who was 6 then, might react to the idea of having a stepfather.

“I remember that the two of you sat to watch a TV show,” Hilda says.  

“And little by little, she started leaning on you — and then I remember she sat on your lap and put her hand over your shoulder.”

“That's how I picture the two of you.”

“We became a family,” Pedro says.

“We did.  Even if you stop loving me tomorrow, I could never pay you back for all of the love and affection you have given my baby,” Hilda says.

“I am a really proud stepfather,” Pedro says.  “We haven't stopped having fun since we met.”

“I believe that we started a conversation 20 years ago, and we have never stopped,” Hilda says.

“Yeah, I have the same feeling,” Pedro says. “These are the best years of my life. I wouldn't change them for anything.”

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128694636


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Yeah, actually, thanks for that. I needed a change of attitude. I have actually had it pretty good. I've had a usually great partner, albeit damaged by her childhood, but then again aren't we all. We have had a lot of laughs, way more than average, over 22 years. Of course, nothing is perfect. I love Jersey Tomato's line,<br />
"Everyone is going to hurt us, the trick is to find the ones worth suffering for." I think that is a good attitude. Oops, sorry, didn't mean to rain on anyone's parade.

Yeah, actually, thanks for that. I needed a change of attitude. I have actually had it pretty good. I've had a usually great partner, albeit damaged by her childhood, but then again aren't we all. We have had a lot of laughs, way more than average, over 22 years. Of course, nothing is perfect. I love Jersey Tomato's line,<br />
"Everyone is going to hurt us, the trick is to find the ones worth suffering for." I think that is a good attitude. Oops, sorry, didn't mean to rain on anyone's parade.

*tears up with envy and inspiration.*<br />
Another great Sahira post.<br />
Thanks.

Well, let's see. I guess you could say that I have had a similar life experience, except, along with the joy mine was interspersed with the occasional but excruciatingly painful and devastating experience. Would I do it over again? Let me get back to you on that.