Why Am I Attracted To You?

“It’s the way you love me.”
That was my response to her when she asked me why I was so attracted to her. She expected to hear something about her physical appearance. This sparked a long discussion between us. She had never thought that a man could be attracted to a woman’s love.
Years ago, I came to a crossroads. There two women standing before me. One was a friend. She was nice and pretty. The other woman I had met only recently, and she was absolutely gorgeous. She seemed nice enough, so I went with her. I chose wrong.
I didn’t just choose a wife when I went with Cher. I chose misery, financial ruin, psychological counseling and a lot of regret. I’m over Cher. It was a long time ago. However, even after all these years, I can still remember when my friend told me to go with Cher. She said, “You two look like you belong together. I don’t want to get in the way, so I’m just going to leave.” That was the last time we spoke.
I will never fall for the packaging again. Likewise, I will never fall for the past again. I don’t care how good or bad someone used to be. I’m paying close attention to how a person is right now. There are so many stories of the past, positive and negative. I can’t make heads or tails of those stories, especially when they told in a way meant to move me.
Therefore, I don’t place a lot of emphasis on looks or weight or height or freckles. I care how I’m treated, and when I feel that I’m treated with respect and love, I take a close look into the heart of the person who makes me feel so glad to be here. Someone with such a beautiful heart is beautiful to me inside and out, and that person absolutely deserves to be treated with respect and love.
That’s just me explaining me.
I talked with my ex the other day. She made the observation that I seem to avoid eye contact with her. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I can’t stand to look at her. She treated me with the opposite of love and respect. Now, see her as the opposite of attractive.
Doggonnit Doggonnit
41-45, M
1 Response May 10, 2012

hmm ...I guess now you know what you have to look for and whats important 2 choose a partner...and its not what's outside the person ... I guess excitement what your friends & family will say looking at yr gorgeous women took over then looking deep inside her brain & personality, heart... thats why you paid for your mistakes and maybe next time you w'll be wiser... and sometimes that person with wrong hight.. weight and freckles may become yr cinderella with warm heart & great personality.<br />
And the way yr ex treated you why didn't you say the truth why you avoided an eye contact with her...? ohh..you didn't have a heart...hmmm ...u should tell her that beauty not always come with inteligence & common sense...<br />
Good luck with yr next choice ... look deep into heart ...look for great personality..and someone who love you for who you are...