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Tantric Love:101 Nights Of Ecstasy

Making love, according to Tantric instructions means to discover each other in a more meaningful way. Doing it teaches how to cross the boundary of body and reach the Universe.

As per my knowledge, Tantra are teachings which comes from the text called Tantra. Scholars believed that they originated in India and have at least a minimum of 1500 years of tradition.

There are a few definitions of Tantra. However, we can say that whatever is written in Tantric texts include a bit of theory about Cretin ritual and a lot about the ritual which is still theoretical. Just to be sure that it is all true and in working, you would need a qualified teacher to practice and experience it. There are not many teachers out there. Plus there is a thin line between a real teacher who would like to teach you and an egotistic liar who would love to use you as just a sex object.

Next, in my opinion, for the foundation for total success with Tantric love is ~ the necessity that partners should be truly and sincerely in love. I am not sure how could you be erotically in love with your teacher who knows Tantra. Possible but almost impossible. In my universe, being in love means one man one woman relationship. It is simple and I hope it does not require further explanation. It doesn’t mean I am a stranger to all existing varied behavior. I can say many times - I love you… and everything (I am referring to cyber world). It is sincere and comes from free will. Nevertheless, we all know what kind of love it is. It is that kind of love which can be expressed and explored just by writing and reading. Still good, I believe. Better love than hatred. I love it.

Sometime ago, I got to the conclusion that I will know for sure that I am in love when I won’t see world beyond this person. Just her, only her and nothing more or less. I am still searching.

What I am trying to say is – it will be very difficult for you to apply Tantric love and get expected results. Still, there is a lot of wisdom and extraordinary beauty in these teachings. It is for sure good to know about it and try to use it as much as possible in your life. I am going to talk about behaviors which are clear, safe and seem to be the perfect way to improve not only your erotic life but life of partners as well.

My understanding of Tantra is:
It is a ritual. It is a practice which includes using body, speech and mind. It is a practice of transformation. In case of Tantric love, we are transforming body experiences into deep spiritual, mental ones. Through sexual intercourse. we can go beyond body, achieve the state of bliss and learn how to maintain it forever. The goal here is to achieve total enlightenment - the State which is not associated with ******. We are not looking for ****** at all. However, as I heard that enlightenment is more powerful than 1000 ******* together and last forever.
On lower level Tantric love can be used as a method of purification of all the problems between lovers, especially deep blocks and dislikes hidden deeply in the unconsciousness. Dialogues between lovers which is promoted in Tantric love gives amazing opportunities for discovering each other and learn more about you. It is the dialogue which is conducted through speech, touch and all behaviours. It is like romantic, erotic dance which takes every second of being together and raises it to the highest possible level.

The magic of Tantric love is based on breathing, visualizing, mantras ( spells or loving words), touches, movements of body, surrounding and creating of right atmosphere ( music, smells, colors, making mandalas, candles or lights, the way we dress before making love, fabric and softness of beddings etc). The goal is to create the highest state of sexual arousal in body and learn how to transform it into arousal of mind and state of bliss.

Everything sounds fantastic. However, I found one weakness here. There is not enough explanation or instructions about where to go or what to do in order to learn how to transform arousal of body into arousal of mind. In whatever I read or I heard or was offered to do was not much a bliss. However, ****** was gorgeous and I had a lot of fun. They are instructions like - do this and that but it didn’t work for me so far. Energy is there for sure. I can say that I am the master in generating one. There is tons of cosmic energy always between me and the person of my affection. Energy flows like lightning or thunderstorm. However, when I am trying to channel it, focus on it, control it and bring up to my mind and achieve bliss, I hear – *** for me, I need you now. And this is basically the end of me and being Buddha. Still, Great ~ I can’t complain.

Honestly, what I found in Tantric love teachings can be found in good western books about healthy and proper sexual life.
 
OK. Enough drama. Lets bring some Tantric love based theory.


First We are not having sex. We are making love.
Having sex is very technical in my opinion and come with arousal which is released in ****** and doesn’t provide any bliss at all. There is nothing wrong with it. It just has not much to do with Tantric love.

Making love means being with each other fully, spiritually, completely and as one in search for liberation.

Second – We have to prepare the space where we are planning to spend our quality time. Love making has to start from there.

We can clean our place together. Bring a lot of fresh air in. Chose and buy flowers that we both like. Decide mutually what kind of smells we both would love to have during making love. What kind of music and lightning would be the most suitable. Organize our bedroom with colours and best possible energy flow.

We are doing all of this together knowing that the final outcome would be making love in full physical contact. We should be very excited about that. All should come with lots of kisses and hugs and sweet touches and wonderful sincere words about how we love each other and need and want each other.

For sure, it will take a lot of decision making and conversations about finding right and the most comfortable solutions. We can learn a lot from that and how to come up with the best answer for both in a loving atmosphere. How to say – No and look for another solution. Say No in such a way that your partner wouldn’t feel hurt or rejected with his or her idea and would love you even more. Say that way that your idea would be his or her idea and he or she would completely agree and love it. 
Say like that for example: I would prefer maybe this way.  What do you think? I am crazy about you. I can’t wait to make love to you.

All disappointments take energy out of the system and takes you down and you don’t want that if you are in a loving relationship. Keeping energy up between lovers all the time and caring about it is one the of best way of showing love and affection. You can feel love and care that way. Your heart is truly touched by that and you wish giving the same.

It becomes a constant circle of love and love giving and love making. I believe that is what it means to be together. Constantly recharge each other and inspire and being in loving paradise of ours. Dragging each other down and hurting each other or all ego power struggles concerning who is better or smarter etc. doesn’t make sense to me. It doesn’t sound like an appropriate prospect for being together.

Remember each time when you have different opinion or wish to go the other way, Just say it differently. Don’t use the same scheme all the time. It can be treated as controlling and actually nobody likes that. Next time you can say – Wow! I love it. Let’s buy tulips. Kiss me baby. I am yours. My mom always loved roses. We had them at home all the time. I want to be your rose. Can you imagine my petals now? If she would say like that, the answer can be only one. Let’s buy all the roses in this store and take them home.

The secret of successful love making in the sense of intercourse is a combination of what happens before and at the most after it. We should know that we are making love all the time and all counts. We can’t be rude, disconnected, and selfish during the day or night and expect to have wonderful and fulfilling sex life or search for bliss. Plus finding the way to each other and pleasing each other all the time and in new ways even if we want do things differently can be a wonderful thing.

If for any reason, energy will drop suddenly we should be able to bring it up with our loving attitude, kind words, kiss, ensuring touch, respectful comment. We should know we are both in this boat. We are experiencing similarly and compassion towards our sufferings should lift us up. Picture it like that – our child fell down on the floor and is crying now and run towards us in need of a hug. We are terrified by what happened and we love this child so much now and we are ready to give him any comfort.

When all is ready and all puzzles of surrounding are in, we can cook something together or eat outside. Something light and energetic and healthy. We can feed each other. I found putting food in the mouth of loved one or her fingers on my lips or gently inside my mouth to be very erotic.

Taking shower together and washing each other or slowly undressing, especially bra or stockings is pretty explosive for me. During all these activities we should be aroused and stimulate each other by kind words and all kinds of behaviour. All basically comes with intimacy and closeness till the point of break. However, we should control our desire and just learn to be on edge - wet, soaked or hard but in total mastery of energy which flows in our body. We should focus and visualize all energy going up to the crown chakra and down. We should make connection between what we think and visualize and energy of arousal and be able to control the flow which is not easy.

However, practice makes a master and we should try that. For sure, being aroused and not having any ****** will teach us how to maintain arousal for long time. Doing it regularly and quickly would help us find out that we have some control over our ******. We would be able to trigger it or just avoid it keeping energy in the circle and in search for the bliss.

There are some exercises we can conduct in order to control our arousal state and not to blow it into ****** but bring all energy up to our head, achieve the state of bliss and remain in it.

 In case of women, she should develop muscles inside her vagina. There are cretin objects which she can insert inside vagina like balls etc. Next she should try to squeeze them by inner muscles. She should practice it daily around 30 minutes. This way she should able to tighten and untighten her vagina during intercourse. She should be able enough to stop or control or extend her ******.

For men, it is ************. However, he should stop and refocus his thoughts before ***********. This way he should be able to control his ****** as well.
 
In Tantric love it is advised to learn about the body map of our partner. We have to discover all erogenous places which by touch can turn on our lover. The best is to interview him or her kindly and lovingly about what he or she likes or dislikes. It is said that most successful method is to ask our loved one to ********** for us many times and see how she or he is doing it.

Next, we have to try to do it the same for her or him, asking how she or he feels and if you are achieving the right results. Your partner should guide your hands, fingers, lips, foot, hair, penis or vagina and teach you how you should do it properly and in the best way. Especially, we should focus on breasts, nipples, neck, arms, ears, vagina - Paradise of Pleasure, ******* - if needed, chest or penis.  During the process of studding, we should avoid ****** and understand how to keep arousal forever on the edge. As well, we should start vitalizing process and imagine energy gathering around our genitals or heart or crown chakra of our head.

 When you are build with knowledge and we are masters of generating sexual energy quickly in each other, we should drop all the notes and be spontaneous. The most important is to watch face and eyes of our partner and see how she or he is responding. If you see any problem, you should stop and ask kindly about how he or she likes it and looks for some directions. Be always in charge and confident and ready to transform and look for other solutions.

The best attitude here can be expressed like this - My pleasure arouses from the pleasure of my partner. His or her happiness makes me happy and that is what I am looking for.

Before making love in Tantric tradition, it is good to conduct purification process. We have to talk about all that happened and was not good between us. I can imagine that can be tough and unpleasant which can really put us down. In order to avoid loss of energy and suffering during washing our dirty clothes, we are transforming ourselves in temple and holy beings.

She becomes Goddess and he becomes Master - the one who cares. We bow to each other and bring all the respect towards us. Next we are imagining opening ourselves to each other. Opening our hearts. We are visualizing all energy to be gathering around our heart chakra and next we imagine connecting our heart chakras with each other. We are one now and nothing can divide us. We feel and see the same. There is no more secret and nothing needs to be hidden. We become somebody else and we can talk now about our problems as problems of other people and we are looking for solutions and ways to avoid any misunderstandings in the future. We are happy and confident than we can trust and share anything. In the end, we imagine that all the problems and all what we talk about dissolving in space and all our energy channels are purified. We bow to each other again in full respect for such an extraordinary exchange.

We are in our bedroom. The space looks amazing. All is clean. Fresh and new. Smells are intoxicating. Music which we love the most is on. Candles and lights - all is perfect. All is as we would wish for. We are filled with energy and desire. We love each other so much. We understand each other fully. We are like mirror reflection. Different yet the same. There is nothing between us what can make as apart. Energy flow is wonderful. We feel like reborn again. We will make love like it would be for the first time. At the same time it will be like we were doing it over and over before. We are one. We were, all the time, and now we will conclude that in the most beautiful act. Act of love making when we will experience universe in us and merge together. Only we can do it. We need each other. We are ready to give all what we got.
 
Final instructions for Tantric love are:

Before making love we should open ourselves to each other and accept fully.

We are visualizing our chakras open, especially heart chakra and connecting with each other and energy flows endlessly between us. We are supported by surrounding and positive experiences during all the process of preparation.

We are pleasuring ourselves keeping an eye contact whenever we can. We talk in a lovely manner casting love spells and admiring how beautiful we are. We can imagine and compare beauty of our lover's body to the phenomena of nature and can express that in words. Like breasts to the most incredible mountains, nipples to most delicious fruit, wetness to extraordinary nectar, smile to the sun shine etc. We are holy. We are temples of love and the Universe supports us.

We are visualizing energy of every touch and word and pleasant experience going up and this should put us in the state of bliss.

During making love we should close our energy circles and rest peacefully in our minds. When this happens, our body should lose grip over us and as one we should experience universe beyond body. ****** won’t be important at that point.

                 


                 


                
                  

                

 
It was written based on the book: The Tantric pillow book 101 nights of sexual ecstasy by Cassandra Lorius.

In the end of the week I am going to post literal vision of love making in the Tantric way.
Bolek Bolek 41-45, M 56 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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I got so involve in the reading forgot i am in hurry for work)))) was sitting and sitting.... still did not finish to read whole post,but now i will reread it from beginning in other time, when my mind totally free from my business)))) i love all this things, can not say my partner - that type of lover) he is too hot to perform )))) but i am definitely are ,never rad any books but the same things coming from inside while love making . and yes -it true -this kind of love making possible only if you absolutely and totally in love with your partner)))) thanks for post. please keep this way))))

Sure. No problem. Thanks. Hugs. If you have any questions please message me.

Father daughter sex

Is that a question or statement?
If you wish talk woody it is not my story.

hey please don't make so idiotic statements. the first thing- father daughter and sex-absolutely mentally and morally uncombined. just become a father first - then lets argue about this . and second if you don't see, don't believe, don't feel something people speaking about- it does not mean those things not exist .
In this case i can rather say - you are just way too much young. those vibrations need mutuality and experience of life and love which can come with the age only. grow up. good luck.

Beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing this with us.

Thank you. Love you. Happy New Year 2014.
I hope it will be the best year for you so far.

Scriptorium thank you for your beauty.
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wow thatis incredible!! to experience something like what I read here would be amazing, to be so beyond connected like that with ne person, what an hieght to reach,
again as always bolek, loved your writing here! awesome piece on that. I heard the term but never really knew what it was till now, sounds a little silly maybe, but now I have a good idea what it is!
your awesome bolek !!

Love you. You are great.
I hope you are doing well.
I wish you all the best.
I have more material I can share with you.
MSM

your the fantastic one!!!!!
god love your writings!!!
your so beyond inspiring!

Very well written Peter!!!! Thank you for sharing your post... I know many here including myself are longing for this...giggles..:) but this is really good... cheers :)

Thank you. I can make more post like that if you wish.
Just let me know.
I know really cool stuff.
Theory but for sure amazing read.

This would be the ultimate act of lovemaking. It would be exquisite. I long for this. Truly. kissessssssssssssssssssss.....Thank you, Peter. I have heard of tantric love before. But you have explained it with images and words perfectly. And my heart sings for this...

That is Amazing song.
Theoretically I am great.
Practically I am more earth related.
However I am very open minded and I never had any complains at on that field that is for sure.

So beautiful <3

Thank you so much.
You are kind and beautiful.
Please visit me on: http://piotrgrzywacz1.blogspot.ca/

Im not too sure about it really. Im a multiorgasmic myself.I dont mean external ******* but I can get to a point where I experience many internal ******* at which point I lose control of my body.I can stay in that state for hours.It could probably get boring for a partner but I was lucky with my ex as we were perfectly sexually matched.Ive never told anyone about it but I know Im very lucky and Im not selfish sexually. I admire you as its great to improve yourself for the benefits of others. Well done.

That sounds great.
I would say amazing!
Lucky you.
I can imagine - that is too bad that just imagine - how that feels.
Thank you again for your kind words.
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Thank you for this. I've always been interested in Tantric Love and sexual energy.
I'm not sure how it feels like to be fully in the state of bliss with a partner. I was very fortunate to have experienced orgasmic bliss.

How does one bring up the sexual energy to the crown? And, is it possible to achieve the same kind of bliss without a partner?

I wish I could help.
However I will be honest.
I have no idea.
I will try to share with you for sure if I will know.
Thank you for reading me and your kindness.

This sounds good, now only if I had that right guy..

Thank you for reading me.
Please keep going.
I am sure you will find it.

One might want to first try these techniques alone. It is more about the energy and thought process. This could make it more comfortable when attempting with a partner by familiarizing yourself by heightening the senses.

Very true. Safe and comfortable.
I am here if you wish some theoretical guidance.
If not I understand completely.

Would love this!! And following this!

Theory is always available here.
Just ask.
Thank you.

Thank you for that exposure to this.

My pleasure.
Thank you for liking it.

Very beautiful and sensual to read. Thanks for sharing this special way to love another. Brings to my mind a lot of very happy memories from my past. Thanks so much for the story.:) Your awesome my friend.

My pleasure.
This is very precious comment knowing that you sacrifice your life totally to God.
I am glad that behind common words you see spiritual craving for everlasting love.
Open. Pure. Fresh. Understanding. Loving. Kind. Not judgmental. Like arms of the Christ should be. Thank you.

My dear sweet friend as a religious I love unlike most can understand. I'm so happy to have someone that understands me. You are a treasured friend.:) Your very welcome and hugs to you!

It feels amazing...pure ecstacy. More people should know about this, so thank you for sharing :)

Nothing can be better than ecstasy with Spanish flavor.
Thank you for your comment.

I totally understand and believe in what was written,It is a love story of the joining of the soles and bodies,but! I would be to ashamed to show my body to anyone these days,I'm not 30 yrs old any more.

It is not much how your body looks. It is much how you can use it. Plus I mention that you have to be in state of deep love. I can't imagine that you would feel ashamed in front of person who you love dearly and he loves you back the same way. Plus we are all will be there. Show some courage. Lets us believe that future is friendly for us. I believe that Antony Quinn have child in age of 70. Finally always remember that body is always the temple where spirit lives.

I would love to connect with someone on that level...just not sure its possible....but thank you for another enjoyable read Piotr

You are not sure.
Did I give you all the keys to my place long time ago and you are still not sure. Well if you are no sure yet after 6 mounts than I can't help it.

Keys? They must have gotten lost in the mail honey cause I never got them. :-(

We had meeting in the castle - do you remember that?
I gave you key at that time.

No, I'm sorry. I don't remember getting the keys. But then again I do have that short term memory problem.

Check than again in your purse. Maybe they are still there.
In the back pocket. I remember seeing you putting them there.

Good thing one of us has got a good memory. :-)

Yea. That is very good thing.
I can't complain.

Can't complain about what? Your memory or us in the castle?

About my memory.
Remember when you were inviting me on date some time ago.
We should meet half way in the castle.

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Love is a thing that must be practiced good work Bolek

Make sense. Make sense.
I am all with you.
Thank you.

maybe you over think things to much... when i read this my friend i feel like i am in a lecture theater. " tantra for idiots lol". I do not get a sense of what you are like yourself, your wants, needs, shame, etc therefore how can i really meet you, if i know nothing about you, which is my need to make friends and connect. in my experience its about clearly knowing ones self enough to know what they want and need to live a satifying life. when to people whom have this and can work through things with respect for other while also getting what is needed for themselves. Then they can meet and see eachother.. umm i imagine this would be hard to achieve yet magical. Any way it is only an one opinion. but thank you , this has given me plenty food for thought.

Although my experiences of tantra have been magical and taught me how to respect and love my body more... and feel blessed to have had that experience.

First - if you wish to know about me there is no problem. I can tell you anything you wish to know. I am very open and I love to share.
Second - I understand you wish to know about me and meet me in order to practice Tantra. If that so it is amazing. I would love that. However there is somebody in my life and I would not wish to hurt feelings this person. Hm - what is the funny part it is almost not sexual. She is amazing and very attractive but we are not taking here about nothing physical. However it is extraordinary and spiritual. But I am sure it would case pain if I will say - great I will tell you all about myself and lets meet and practice Tantra. Well I guess I think that way because I would feel very uncomfortable if I will learn that she is doing something like that. Then I guess you can sense my answer in terms of teaching you Tantra. Plus you need qualify teacher not journalist and Buddhist who just know a bit.
Third - if you are asking me to be your friend and achieve all this goals you mention above my answer is - yes, yes, yes. I would love too.
Fourth - what do you know about Tantra at all?
Fifth - I did not quite understand what you are saying than I answer all what I thought you are saying.

Thank you for your wonderful comment.

Oh sorry if i gave you this impression... not at all i was not meaning it from a sexual side at all. Friendhip is all i am after on this sight nothing more... i feel i have enough self support not not need anything from anyone right now.. and when i do need i know how to ask. I would never imagine coming on a sight and asking to practice something so intimate and revealing as tantra with someone i do not know. i have way to much respect for myself to do that, however i am pleasantly honored by your honestly and loyalty thank you. i am very interested in people and seeing their true nature and was intrigued by this article thats all. I guess i got caught in my own world and was not clear enough and i appologise.. this article helped me reflect and what i really want in life is true connection with out all the fake **** and to get to know people for who they are. i am sorry if i came across in this way.. i am just finding it hard and what i am hearing is your on here to write articles and have people read them and give feedback?

We are friends - like we press this button. Now I hope we will talk and learn about each other. I am finding you as kind and very interesting person. Very open minded. I am too. I think Tantra is for people. If you think that you can find this connection with the person it is not the shame to ask. I would ask definitely any female teacher about tantra if I will know that I can achieve something.

Yes I write and I love when people comment. I like as well unique questions and challenge. Your question was extraordinary in a very positive way and thank you for that.

Yea there is so much fake out there but you can quickly sort things out. I am sure you can. I am glad to be your friend. If you know something about Buddhism or anything what I am not aware I hope you will share with me.

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Wonderful piece of writing and beautifully presented vusually too.

I have been waiting for so long to have a chance to share this with you.
Thank you.

I have wanted to try this for years!

It is never to late.
If you would need some theoretical guidance I can contact you with the best advisors in the city.

Be in love with the perfect partner it doesn't exist in my social circle
Though I found the story amazing

I don't know how to respond to your comment.
I really would like to say something positive here.
Can you give me a hand?
Thank you.

If more people could see love for what it was meant to be- loving on ALL LEVELS, there wouldn't be soo many unwanted children in this world!
Speaking of which- I would love to know Fatherhood some sweet day! :-)

I wish you that for the bottom of my heart.
It could be, it could be that this could solve this problem.
In my opinion the best could be - when child is unwanted we should make him wanted.

It can be hard for most to find that someone who is
willing to connect with you like that. Personally i believe people
have to be connected on an emotional level to achieve
the ultimate with tantric sex. So well written, and i agree
with a lot of the things you say. Looking forward to hearing more:)

It could be hard but possible.
Yes we agree totally.
I am with you in every step of the way.
I will try bring more of it.

wow...took my breath away...answered my question...stupid as I might sound "what is Tantric sex" seen it before but never really knew what it was...thank you, this is a very incredible piece!!
I don't think I could ever get there with someone....I thought I did once....to be that opne with someone freaks me a bit.....
but wow!! love this!!!!

I understand.
However remember that this not last forever.
One day it will be over for good and I will be able only ask yourself - why?

Great story. Thank you

My pleasure.
Always. Peace and love.

Tantra has little to do with sex. Tantra actually by definition means method. In tantra there are few meditation methods that involve sex. When the hippies came about they popularized the word tantra and the west came to associate tantra with sex. Tantra is simply a technique that allowed one to achieve the ultimate experience of love. Yes there are a few sex methods but all the methods involve meditation. A tantra yogi would laugh if he learned his student worried about being sexually taken advantage of because it is just not what tantra is. However some inexperienced men who want sex might pose as knowing what tantra is to impress naieve women into surrendering themselves to spiritual sex. I read a book called the book of secrets by Osho and it details the original 112 different tantric meditation techniques I can only remember 1 having to do with sex but im sure there are a few more. The reason sex is drawn into meditation is because it is very powerful energy. But if you are using sex for meditation it isn't very sexually satisfying for a very long time because the focus point is on spiritual advancement. It is actually quite boring to the ego and most people quietly slip away when they realize tantra doesn't stroke the ego or give much pleasure. The only thing it does is bring us closer to knowing our true God within. That pleasure is very subtle and most can't feel it for a long time. I experienced ego death it was intimidating. I felt naked, separated from humanity etc. I like the way you describe tantric sex, the information I have been exposed to says that all tantric technique should be used to achieve full spiritual benefit. I like the book of secrets because it isn't posing as a sexually appealing book to get more sales. It is strait forward and covers all aspects of tantra, not just the parts that appeal to the ego. When a book only talks about emotionally stimulating parts I tend to think the author is just appealing to the mainstream crowd and whatever they write is dismissed to mainstream BS.

I guess your teacher would laugh for sure. Why not. You are beautiful and intelligent.
However after some time if you are not achieving bliss I would reconsider. Unless you like it. I think we are kind of always having sex. I me sure that when penis is inside vagina both of partners feel that. However in order to achieve bliss in my opinion partners should be in state of deep love. I know Osho and his books. I did not see his book or books about Tantra.

Thank you for you wonderful and long comment.
Please stay in touch. I would like to hear form you more.

nicely written

Thanks.

Another amazing story my friend... the true meaning of lovemaking... bravo! <3

Just words.
Nothing - what you can touch.
Thanks.