A Study Of Jealousy ~ The Structure Chameleon

Precisely.
Thank you.
I am glad that you like it.

Thank you for that.
I totally agree with you.

Thank you.
What I can say.
I was taught many times in life - no jealousy no love.
I tend to believe that it is true. Of course too much jealousy no good but not jealousy at all it seems to be strange to me.
I am trying to be wise and cool here but when I am truly in love I am jealous.
I am glad that you like it.
Thank you again for your comment.

Tried to send you a message but it wouldn't go through.:( Just wanted to say I love the new avatar pic! Cute!

Lol! thanks so much, lohla!! : >

Thank you for being with me in that understanding.
I enjoyed your comment a lot.
Thank you for your wisdom and understanding.

Yes I hear you.
I think I understand.
There not a coincidences - I believe.
I am glad if I could help you in some way.
I know exactly how it feels.
I hope you will be well.

Oh yes ill b fine I always am- this is one phase of many that's been the very worst thing to happen to me until the next best thing comes along.. I try to learn from where I was so I don't end up there again! If it wasn't fun the 1st time I can't imagine any other time would b better lol thanks for ur kind words

Stay in touch please.
If I can do anything let me know.
I am here for you.
Just time. Little bit time and all with go away.

My pleasure.

I tried my best. I am glad that I come close by to have some universal understanding.

I would love to if you would read parts of my book and here and tell me what do you think.

Thank you.

It was not difficult believe me.
These feelings are still fresh even If I think that I know who to deal with them.
Thank you for your comment.

You will have to teach me how to get there, please.
Thank you for your comment.

And that is why I love you!
Thank you for your wonderful comment.

No sure if that is good or bad but thank you very much for your comment.

Thank you for understanding.
Thank you very much.

You're welcome.

Thank you for reading me.
I am glad that you agree with something.
I will work on my English for sure. Thank you so much for advice.
What is sexism?
It is bad thing or not?

Sexism is when you discriminate against a person because of their gender. So yes, it is a bad thing. When you say "Woman. They are so jealous. So weak." you convey that women are inherently weak and flawed to a greater degree than men.

I think that you did not understand whole notion of the story.
I guess my poor English is responsible for that.
Main character is showing all the time how week he is and troubled.
If I would say I am better and you are worst than we can talk about discrimination. That is what I believe. However If I am showing how weak I am and in the end because I can't stand that and I blame other side for that. It looks totally different to me. Plus if you would read text carefully you could see that character understand his problem and admit that he will blame this other side for everything with no reason. He is wired like that but honest with himself. Next he did not tell that directly to her. He thought or said that to himself. Which may not or may make a difference. I would think that it would be difficult to judge somebody or punish by calling names because of his free thinking. Would you like to live in the world where we will be punish for thinking. I could judge you for encouraging others to smoke weed. Which could be bad, very bad worse than words. You can't destroy somebody life by telling him that this is so great and he or she will fallow. However I smoke for long time, it destroyed my life completely, but I loved it. Than it could be difficult to judge you for that. In the end if you are so much against discrimination. I would say that you discriminate me saying that I am bad person and I guess you are good because you don't do that. I will call that "badysm". You used "badysm" against me. Lol.

Sorry for my English. I hope you understood what I am saying.

I do understand what you're getting at. I suppose you should have phrased it better but because your English is not perfect I see why it was worded the way it was. And for the record the "smoke weed everyday" comment was written as a joke. It's a well known phrase and is often used in a non-serious context, but I can also understand how you wouldn't have known that. You say that the weed ruined your life, well, in my opinion (and you won't like this) if you think your life was destroyed by smoking weed, that would only have been because you let it destroy your life. I don't seriously go around telling people to take drugs, nor have my admitted consumption of them destroyed my life. It's all about finding a balance and knowing when to stop. Remember that this is the internet. You should try not to take offense so easily, otherwise you won't last 5 minutes here.

I agree with Acrimonyx on the definition of sexism. And some people do think women are jealous, and weaker than a man and are flawed by this. However this is a writing or story and this particular character thinks that way. And the way this character thinks adds to the comedic attribute as house cleaning is viewed as "woman's work". I took no offense to this, because in real life, like it or not, this is indeed how some men think. And unfortunately some women too.

I would like to advised you the same about 5 minutes thing.
Remember that this web side run all over the world and many people will not get your jokes. I will not agree with you about knowing when to stop. I am not your parent.

I've been an active user of the internet for almost a decade. If people don't get my jokes, well that's their problem, they shouldn't be so naive to take everything literally. You're right, you are certainly not my parent - being a grown woman, I have 0 need for parental guidance or control, nor would I find it appropriate if it were forced upon me. Just because you couldn't control your consumption of substances, that does not mean that others cannot, and you should not judge others who choose to partake in them and imply that they are ignorant, inexperienced or very young and in need of a parent to stop them. Everyone is different, some can handle these things without becoming addicted and some can't - you should realise this and try not to evangelize. Every person is unique and every situation is different.

Yea you are right.
No comment.
I control all now.

Open like what way?
Thank you.
You are so kind.

My pleasure.

日日事無別 In my daily life there are no other chores than

惟吾自偶諧 Those that happen to fall into my hands.

頭頭非取捨 Nothing I choose, nothing reject.

處處沒張乖 Nowhere is there ado, nowhere a slip.

朱紫誰爲號 I have no other emblems of my glory than

邱山絶塵埃 The mountains and hills without a spot of dust.

神通並妙用 My magical power and spiritual exercise consists in

運水及搬柴 Carrying water and gathering firewood.

Wow. Do we have to suffer like that?
Thank you.

We can't help but be who we are. Good or bad. We control our choices, to a point. I recently just read an article on Psychology Today, written by a PhD no less, who indicated that men are particularly hard-wired for infidelity. The more and more we as a society and as individuals find 'logical' and 'scientific' ways to rationalize our evil, selfish behaviours, the less and less civilized we become.

OK.
Let me understand that fully in plain language.
I am Polish. I know just a few words well.
Hard-wired for infidelity - how do you understand that? Like we are more as man able and do cheat or we are more jealous or we feel infidelity deeper and stronger?
Rationalize our evil, selfish behaviors - can you explain here and give some examples? You mean if I am able explain logically how evil and selfish I am I am becoming less civilized.

How would you define "evil" here? Please examples.
How do you understand "civilized" here ? Please some examples.
ra·tion·al·ize
/ˈraSHənlˌīz/
Verb

Attempt to explain or justify (one's own or another's behavior or attitude) with logical, plausible reasons, even if these are not true...: "she couldn't rationalize her urge to return to the cottage"
Make (a company, process, or industry) more efficient by reorganizing it in such a way as to dispense with unnecessary personnel or...

civilized past participle, past tense of civ·i·lize (Verb)
Verb

Bring (a place or people) to a stage of social, cultural, and moral development considered to be more advanced: "a civilized society".
Polite and well-mannered.

"hard wired for infidelity":
this means that it is literally apparently encoded into the genetic composition of some men (the article cited specifically men).
Evil:
Profound immorality, wickedness, and depravity. In this context, infidelity *is* evil because there is nothing more depraved than for one human being to deliberately destroy another human being emotionally, particularly when the motivation is his own selfish indulgences.
Civilized:
The state of (a place or people) to a stage of social, cultural, and moral development considered to be more advanced. Civilized persons employ morality at all times, not only when it conveniences them. As in the case of infidelity. A moral person WILL NOT COMMIT INFIDELITY. PERIOD. A person who commits infidelity and claims to be a person of decent moral character is a profoundly deceived hypocrite. At *best*.

I hope this provides some clarity, and apologize that my feedback was initially so obscure.

Did you ever cheat?
Do you think like cyber sex is cheating or not?
How this respond to my text here?

Half my lifetime ago, in my early twenties, unfortunately, yes, I made the abhorrent, reprehensible decision to become involved in an extra-marital affair (as the 'other' woman). Trust and believe that Karma has seen to it that I have paid for this tremendous error to the Nth degree.
Cyber sex is cheating. If you have to ask whether or not something is cheating... well, obviously, it is.
And... forgive me, but I do not understand "How this respond to my text here".
If you would please offer some clarification, perhaps word it differently, I would be much obliged. Thank you for engaging in the intelligent discourse, and be well, sir.

My text is about jealousy.
More of about paranoia of it and the way how my character try to deal with the problem deep down knowing that he is paranoid. You can't talk about infidelity if you don't have evidence and he don't have any. Just his thinking.
Your comment touch post factum when act of being not honest is done. That is why I ask. I have no problem with that. I love intelligent exchange. I was wondering what inspire you in my story to have such a thoughts.

Do you sex chat here?
Do you have master?

I am not about judgement. If you feel uncomfortable with any question please don't answer.

A bit of clarification of the connective tissue between my thoughts and your original post is certainly in order, and I'm more than happy to make the attempt.
On January 4th, my best friend, my fiance, the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, abandoned me. Within three days he was in a relationship with another woman, even to the point of wearing *her* collar. Prior to his selfish flight, I experienced the kind of emotional and psychological torture that the protagonist of your account is subjected to. Hopefully this will provide the insight needed to better understand my feedback, in its context.
I do not sex chat here.
I have a Master, but only in my heart, and that is not by choice. In other words, regardless of what he has done to me, I remain in love with the man. If only it were as easy as deciding not to be, I most assuredly would do so, and hasten the matter at that.
I take no issue with your question at all; in fact, thank you for taking an apparently genuine interest.

Yes I understood all the situation from the beginning. I looked at your profile. I figure out all. Now I know I was right.

One more question.
You still love him.
You don't have master per say because he is in your heart.
I hope I am correct till this point.

Next you avatar suggest that you are submissive and that you belong to D/S world. Next you are saying you are still in love. I would understand that if I am in love I don't give any impression that I look for dominance or I am submissive. I could do that to manifest my believes when having master or looking for new one. I would not do it if I would not look for that. I understand you are not looking because you are still in love. I can see some opposite understandings and behaviors. I have no problem with that knowing how psyche complicated is. Just trying to understand based on my logic. Can you help me here?

You are correct in this:
Yes, I still love him. No, there is no other Master because I am still his, unwanted or not.

I am submissive and do consider myself part of the D/s subculture.
Expressing my submissive nature is not the same as advertising for a Master; I am merely stating my nature. Being clear about how I perceive myself and relate to the world around me in this way has been very helpful in finding other members of the community with whom I can relate.
That is to say, I can state that I am a fan of Classical Music but that does not mean that I am looking for a job with an orchestra.

Make sense.
I hope all will see it as you see it.

For those who do not comprehend my desire to relate to other members of the D/s community on strictly social and intellectual bases, I am only more than happy to make myself abundantly clear to them.

In Poland we have old saying who plant wind harvest the storm.
Anyway it is not my desire to give any advices.
All are free and make their own choices.
I was wondering and I asked.
By the way - what would you think if you would see my avatar when I am whole naked on it?
I understand you wish to talk. I am keeping the flame going.

I am thinking now.
I wonder what his Holiness would do in this situation?

To see your avatar as you in the nude would lead me to believe that you are perhaps a nudist. The Pope would more than likely not find himself in this situation as he is allegedly supposed to have taken a life-long vow of celibacy.
Next?

Simplified on the phrase, "Hard-wired for infidelity - how do you understand that?" Is that men, just because they have a penis, are prone to NOT be in a monogamous relationship with just one woman. Hard wired means there is just something in their brain or they natural way of being that will not let them be faithful. Of course most women would like to think that this is not true. :)

No, it's because of their biochemistry with specific relation to three biochemical elements, only one of which is testosterone. I'm sure you can find this article yourself, just 'google' "why men cheat article Psychology Today". Other, more unsettling information in the article states that men who are subjected to particularly maternal abuse (including neglect) in the first ten years of life are exponentially more susceptible to infidelity than their well-nurtured peers.
I sought the information not to villify... but to understand.

Thank you for reading me.
It is quite warm here.

lucky you

Quite lucky. I can't complain.
Life is amazing. I can't help it.
I hope your situation will improve shortly.

I am glad that you were able to recognize that.
Than you so much.

Interesting. Interesting.
Like honestly, honestly I can tell you what I felt before writing it.
Do you really picking some energy like is something ending here?

It feels that way to me. Why the angst and jealousy if you trust in love? If you are feeling a withdrawal emotionally, even if it is slight and unconsciously, between two people in a relationship, jealousy widens the gap. You begin to pick at your own insecurities until the breach widens further. Eventually I think it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.

Hm ...insecurities I think yes.
However it is a bit different here but maybe I am not aware what is happening.
When you meet somebody you can see if there is interest or not. If you see interest there then you wish to know what it is and why. It is natural I believe.

For sure you like the person and you wish to proceed. You giving the try and you start to feel for that person. That how it goes. You have emotions - all natural and spontaneous like love should go. Well basically she is amazing and she has all what you would dream about. Plus she has all advantages of beauty and wisdom and age. You never had nothing so beautiful in your life. You do your best. You feel that there is right respond but it was not all said like - I am yours and you are mine. And you can't make sure about that. But all all around says like that. You are not sure you are with her or not. Than when you don't hear and make sure that all is still as you left last time. That has to be house renovation.
0 seconds ago

Wow.
You know magic.
You are magic.
You live with the spirits. You are great spirit.
You master it.
Glad to meet you Wind.

I am Traveler.

Thank you for Zephyr.

*sigh* ... so lovely!
PS: I'm not always a soft wind... fair warning :)

Yes - you are lovely.

Don't worry.
You can be Tornado 10 as well. I know you name and you can't change that.

Try to understand first who Traveler is - please.

I will, and savor it, as your writing is lush and layered. I believe it will take time to fully understand Traveler.

All for you secret beauty.
You possess quality of mind reading as well.
That is marvelous.
Such a uniqueness.
You are right it is about time which don't exist.
However we need time to understand that.
For sure you are safe and protected all the time. No matter how you think about that or you believe or not if that is possible.
For all of this we need time to prove it.
Never the less inner discover began here.
I am sure you will love it.

Thank you for your time and words.
I think you are still very young and all is in a front of you.
If I can make you help understand something I am very glad about that.
There is no world with out jealousy but there is a world where jealousy can be use for good. I wish you all the best as well.

Yes. This is one of the main causes why this text come to life.
Fear of rejection and all what followed it.
You saw it right.
Thank you for your comment.

I think this jealousy combo in the beginning of your comment make sense. Real man should make his woman jealous. It is so stupid to do it but fun sometimes. There is the situation as well when you don't do anything and your woman is jealous which is even more fun. I am one woman one man history. I like that way and I don't mind how others like it. Yea for sure kiss can be powerful. It can make you forget about anything. Thank you for reading me and your comment.

Yea. That is true.
I am kind of obsess person.
It is good because if I decide to accomplish something I am totally for the tusk. However can be bad and damaging when you can't keep right balance. So far so good here. I hope the same with you.

Thank you for your comment.

If this work for you it is great method.
For me probably it would very difficult to love the guy who I would think sleep with my wife. I had this kind of story in my life in real time. My wife become pregnant with one of my best friends. We were still friends and we are however I did not feel much love for him. I understand - I was busy, working, almost never home. She was alone and he is great guy. I wish I could cut his balls but this is just between you and me. Today I am cool.

My friend your story is very much understandable and I'm sorry if I sounded a little bit idealistic on my reply. But that's how I face my real life. I'm sorry that it has to happen this way but let it go. When God closes the door, He opens the windows! God bless you.

It was 25 years ago.
I am cool now.
Thank you for understanding.

Feelings thanks God we all have them.
No matter what you feel I can feel it too.
When you move in the back of the boat I will go up on my other side.
However I will always run to meet you on other side of the boat.
I will never let you stay down. I will try to make boat even.
It can be very stupid because we can sink together.
The best when you meet me in the middle.
We always will be safe when we make the same effort to reach each other.
Feelings should be always administrated with wisdom.
Thank you for your lovely comment.

I hope my comment did not make you feel bad.I wrote what I felt.
Regards.

I did not find anything wrong in your comment.
You express yourself and I did too.
I hope you did not find anything bad in my comment.
You felt jealous for some reason. I felt that you are going down. I come to pick you up. I felt your kindness giving me by reading my story and by time giving me and your interest in me. I made a story. I feel responsible for it. It was not my intention to make you feel jealous but understand nature of it and be able reflect on it and try to work with it the best way possible. I take responsibility for every word I wrote. I waned to show it as we speak.

Thank you my friend.
All the best for you.

Thank you.
I would love to avoid it.
Do you know how to stop this voice?

We are all on the same boat.
Thank you for lovely Good Morning.
You are an Angel.

Thank you.
All will be good. All will be good.
You have extra ordinary heart. Very giving and compassionate.
I can't imagine nothing more for you like great in near future.
You planting amazing seeds and you will receive great results.
Hugs for kids.

Ah thank you :-)

Thank you so much.
Thank you so much.
I understand totally.
I am not offended in any way.
I know you too well. On top of this I like you. I work like that
You are very nice women. Honestly - plus I checked on your pics and I like the way you look as well. Than - because I know you and you look nice I can't be offended in any way.
By the way nomo.. nemero.... nombrilistic - could you be so kind and explain what do you mean by that?