The Responsibility Of MarriageI read a question on EP recently, that asked - "How do I tell my husband I need to be submissive sexually", or something like that.
It always surprises me when someone asks something like this. Why don't people discuss these things with their partners BEFORE they marry? Things like sex, raising children, religion, politics......all the things and opinions we have, that make us who we are, should be discussed prior to marriage. People marry and wonder why their relationship isn't working out and why they are "SUDDENLY" so different!! One commenter says to find someone else. What the? No. You married this man, if he's not interested in this, then too bad. Since when did sex become more important than faithfulness and love and honor and respect?
Some people have a tradition of arranged marriages for their children. I'm not making a comment on whether I agree with that or not, but there is one aspect of the arranged marriage I do appreciate, and that is the fact that each partner is selected for the other ba
Couples marry because they love each other. They are sexually compatible. These are the two most common reasons. Love and lust alone will not ensure the survival of your relationship! Why is that not so completely obvious? Before any couple marries, they should discuss all those things that matter to them. How many couples have gone on to have children, only to find their parenting strategies are completely different? Or their political convictions are radically opposed to one another's. These things matter!
Talk to your partners. About the important things. If you find you have differences that could cause future problems, you can confront the situation now, and with counseling and compromise, come to a livable solution. If you don't do this, you can very well expect to be among the 65% of divorced couples whose marriage dissolves within 5 years. So ask yourself what you have to lose. Because it could be everything.
PS. Please don't think I am making a judgement on any marriages that have failed. We are not taught these things. That is my point. We need to educate our youth and our own children to communicate prior to marriage. It is a wisdom that should be passed from generation to generation that perhaps once was, but sadly stopped. I really believe that with this understanding the rate of divorce would decrease over time.