In A Dd RelationshipI was with my boyfriend for 2 years before he spanked me for the first time. Before then, we had typical relationship. We have a lot of fun together, and he made me laugh. It was a give and take relationship. We got engaged a few weeks before my first spanking.
After getting engaged, our relationship changed a little. I have a stressful job and I think with the stress from the job, the stress from moving in together, and the wedding stuff, I might have been a little crabby. I sent him a rude email and he responded saying, "we'll discuss it when you get home." When I got home, I was full of attitude. He was sitting on the couch and told me to sit down. He basically told me that he was in charge, and that I would respect him. He told me that he would start include spankings into our relationship if I misbehaved. He said that crabbiness was not permitted. Me swearing (I have a truck driver's mouth) was not permitted. if I was mishaved or didn't respect him, I would be spanked. He said a wife respects her husband, and now that we were engaged, I needed to start acting like a wife, and not some bitchy girlfriend. I told him he was crazy and I walked into the bedroom. I thought he was joking. He knew I was into spankings and we had roled play before, but it was a light spanking. Not for REAL.
He followed me and told me that he was serious. That this is how the relationship worked. I was so taken aback (and kind of curious) that I allowed this to happen. He put me over his knee, fully clothed, and spanked my butt. It didn't hurt and when he was done, I stood up and made some comment about how hot I was. It was kind of sexy and I have to admit, I enjoyed it. We then had the bed sex of my life.
Fast forward a year. We were married maybe 4 months. After work, I told him I was on my way home. A friend of mine asked me to grab a drink and i did. I forgot to text. About an hour later, he texted me and I told him I was out, and was leaving. He responded, "we'll discuss it when you get home." When i hear that sentence now, I shake. I sometimes begin to cry immediately. But then I, I knew he was mad, but didnt think much of it. When I got home, I didn't see him. I went to the bedroom and he was sitting on the loveseat. He began lecturing me. I was rude, inconsiderate. He was worried. He told me that I would be punished. I laughed, and said, oh really? I was hoping you'd say that. I had been drinking a little horny. I had a skirt on and he put me over his knee, lifted up my skirt and pulled down my panties, he began spanking my bare *** at that point, and he didn't stop. It stung. I resisted and he held my arms, put his legs over mine so I was trapped and began spanking me with a wooden hairbrush. He continued to spank me until I was crying, apologizing. He told me to stand and he removed his belt. He told me that if I ever acted like that during a punishment, I would be given the belt. He then directed me to the corner, where I stood for 20 minutes. When he came to get me, he told me that I was grounded for one week. No going out. and if I ever, ever did that again, Id receive a spanking every day for the week.
I don't receive spankings a lot, but when i do, they are bad. I am spanked to tears each time. If I misbehave during a spanking, he uses the belt on me after the spanking. Sometimes, he will spank me again the next morning for misbehaving. Id say, ive received maybe 5 or 6 spankings over our marriage. we have been married 2 1/2 years.
I get spanked for things like lying, forgetting to text or calling if I have to work late, or being rude....or swearing. That is pretty much it. Other than the spanking, we have a normal relationship. He worships me and does so much for me. On the outside, I hvave the perfect husband. He cooks, cleans, does laundry, and isn't controlling about most things. I have girl time and he has time with the boys. he doesn't complain when I spend money like some of my friend's husbands. We have a great sex life and generally get along so great.
I don't mind being spanked for fun in a role playing setting. I kind of like that. I have tried to talk to my husband about this, and he believes this is how a marriage should be. I don't nkow if I shoudl just acce[t this part of it...knowing how great everything else is. I was spanked last night for lying. I lied to avoid a spanking and now I am on punishment for a week. Im not even suppose to be using this computer. I was paddled to tears and grounded. When he gets home today, I am going to be paddled again. Every day this week, at 7:00 p.m., I have to be sitting in the chair near his office...(he works from home). I have to have the hair brush in hand. He will come get me when he is ready and I am reminded of what I did wrong. I will lay across the desk (not his lap b/c he said thats too personal), and I will be paddled again to tears. He will then take his belt and give me 3 whips with it. I will have this every day for a week for lying. At least that is what he said. If he finds out Im using this computer, I am sure the punishment will be extended.
I just want our relationship to go back to normal. I love my husband, and love virtually everything else we have in our relationship. I just dont' love this part of it.