I have dealt with cheating ever since I was a baby....my father was rarely faithful to my mother...he was in a band when I was little and he would cheat on her with the singer from the band, he cheated with a woman at a company he used to work for, he even brought her to my mother's baby shower for my brother's(we are ten years apart)...I am sure there are more but those are the two I know about because my mother always told me, which we both know she shouldn't have but at the time I was her closest confidant.....
I saw the hurt on my mother's face, the anger and not understanding and I swore that it would never happen to me, that I would be monogomous to my partner and if there ever came a time where I couldn't be faithful or was unhappy I would leave....Well part of that came true, I kept my end of the bargain but the men I have been with havn't always kept up their part of the promise.
I married and was for 5 years...I don't have physical proof that he cheated but his actons were suspicious, working late in the town she lived in, "accidentily" running into each other at a park he took my daughter which happened to be no where near where either one of us lived, when he came home that night he told me he was leaving and that was it, 2 months later he is living with her in an apartment near the beach...come on you don't need to be a rocket scientist.
I know not everybody agrees with monongamy, not everybody has been and no body is perfect least of all me. but after all that I have experienced in my life, after seeing the hurt on my mother's face and feeling it for myself, I have to believe in monongamy, that it is for me...I feel like if you have to lie, cheat and break that trust in any relationship, you shouldn't be there because you are going out to get away or find a solution ....I am sure there are different circumstances for everyone, I am just speaking about me.
I hope to one day be able to be in a monogomous relationship, one where I feel and know that it is true...one day....one day:)