My Submission, Surrender And My Rights And EqualityThis is following up on my story called "My submission and Surrender." I received a comment that made me think about my rights and my choice to surrender to my husband. I decided to post this in response.
After pondering it for the past day, I find no connection between my relationship with my husband and my views on Women Rights.
My beliefs in womens rights are as follows. I do believe women should be equal in the eyes of the law. I whole heartedly support female politicians (with whom I agree politically.) I don't disagree with women being in the workforce ( I myself work 20 hours a week.) I believe in womens right to work, vote, hold office, divorce, and pretty much everything else their special interests groups so adamantly purport.
I do not see how my rights as a woman are endangered by my submission to my husband. A marriage is not an extension of the government or public. It is (as larsen1018 says) my choice. I do not believe that the law should force me to submit...Its a gift I give to my husband of my own free will.
I am a woman who has chosen to give herself unreservedly to a man she deemed worthy of her trust. I am a woman who decided that her marriage is her number one priority. I have not betrayed my liberty or equality. I have equal rights and I'm glad of it.
Let me clarify that although I believe I should have equal rights, I do not think I am equal to my husband. He is not better than I. I am not better then he. Man does not equal woman. We are very different, both physically and psychologically. We have different strengths and weaknesses. We complement one another when we embrace our differences. If I tried to be like him, or he tried to be like me, our interests and desires would clash.
I do not understand this striving I see in some women to be equal to men. They seem to feel a constant pressure to be prove that they can do anything a man can do and better. Their personal and business lives are a constant ******* contest. I find it ridiculous. Why not embrace your femininity instead of constantly hiding behind a facade of equality or superiority. Men and women are not equal. They are totally different and in many ways opposite. Why go against nature and try to to be like the other? It is rather like a bird trying to be like a fish. Neither species are better then the other. One is not less then the other. They are simply different. Men should honor and value women for their differences just as women should value and honor the differences in men. If both sex valued the other and did not try to claim they are inherently superior because of their different characteristics, then I believe we would all be much happier and content with ourselves.
I am content to be a woman. And as a woman I find that I am deeply satisfied, unspeakably joyful, and fully content with my decision to be under my husbands authority. I love being a woman. I love the feeling of protection, and belonging. I love knowing I have a good man I can turn too. I am also a strong woman. I support my husband in any situation. He knows he can turn to me and I am strong when he falters as he is strong for me. Isn't this what marriage is all about? It is not a power struggle, or a contest. Both of us give all we can to the other. And I choose to give him my submission. Because I feel fulfilled, and content knowing I can trust him so completely. My husband makes me feel like a strong, beautiful and treasured woman. I embrace this. How is this betraying womens rights?