While I Believe...

I'm a believer that men and women have their roles in a relationship, but to me that does not sound like what you want. It sound to me like you want to have no responsibility in your relationship. I'm a strong man in my relationship and my fiancee handles much of the finances. It has nothing to with not being a strong leader, I just forget to pay bills regularly so I have her do it. No truly strong man wants a vapid airhead who does nothing but look pretty all day.

You have a wonderful husband who sees you as an equal! He is a real man and deserves your respect! He doesnt ned changing, he is perfect!

Feminism was one of the worst things to happen in human society. Don't misunderstand, I believe women should have the same rights, and I believe women are as crazy as men are stupid. Together though you are a unit, acting like there is no difference is ridiculous, everyone has different strengths and weaknesses, and in an age when there is so much choice and most people are very directionless it doesn't help that the genders is just another place where they say, "Do as you like, not a you're told". Back in the old old old days, women and men at least had a place, they had a direction and a definate purpose, a man had the financial and safely burdens, it was his job to protect his family and to make sure they were fed and had a roof over their heads. A womans place was at home, to look after the children and keep house. Neither job was more important for both are needed for a functioning family, but people had their roles and knew what was expected of them, now? Nothing. No boundries, people flip-flop through life, changing jobs randomly, moving back in with the parents, starting their own family in the house of their parents etc etc, I could go on, and some of those problems are the fault of an ever greedier government with taxes and rent increases and the cost of living always rising. But the directionlessness is largely feminisms fault.

Men in thier thirties have been told all of thier lives not to lead. To act emasculated. There is an old John Wayne Movie called the Tall Man. Watch that with him. John Wayne marries a woman who demands that he lead. She would be embarrassed with a man who could not and did not.

Best of luck,

Tom

It sounds to me like you already started to explain this - I say explain it all to him with full openness.... but then, you have to let him lead - now that's the part you will have trouble with.