I Am His,he Is Mine,and Together We Are OneLong before my husband and I got married it was well established in our relationship what was expected and what our roles were to be so,when we decided to get married it was never a question for me as to what vows we would have read.I chose the traditional vows.why? because I truly believe in those words,People assume it means your controlled or abused by your husband or your not allowed to have your own opinion and that your pretty much just a door mat..Yes I chose to honor and obey my husband,I trust my husband that he will not abuse this gift I've given him.
Along with traditional vows we also wrote our own to each other and in my husbands vows he said to me....I promise to respect you and your own interests,desires,and needs,and to realize that although sometimes different, they are no less important that my own.
Its a huge misunderstanding that honoring and submitting to your husband means being abused and disrespected and it really doesn't mean domination or complete obedience either.
what it really means is a complete trust,respect and love among a marriage that the 2 have to work as one entity with love and mutual respect.in any covenant there is an agreement not a dominated controlled environment..
the Bible clearly states...Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them.the wife is the husbands crown and in order to grow he must protect and take care of her and nurture her.
husbands should not just be a 'lover' but should be totally self-sacrificing for their wives and never ask them to do something that they would not do anyway to please him.