In the beginning I believed in Polygamy or Celestial Marriage because of Joseph Smith who claimed to have talked with God. (Brigham Young and others taught polygamy, but claimed to have received their knowledge of it from Joseph.) Blind faith only goes so far and I needed more. Reading John Milton’s paper on polygamy based solely on the bible was, to me, very conclusive in favor of it, but knowledge does not simply come from reading or listening to others. In order to know one needs to take in information, examine it, apply it to some degree at least, and then to draw conclusions.
The main point I figured was supply and demand. Without polygamy some women would end up celibate, mistresses, or prostitutes. Although some women might willingly take up a career as a prostitute I can’t imagining many little girls having hopes and dreams of attaining to the esteemed profession of prostitution. The idea of women being deprived, wronged, or hurt wounded my soul, and good men marrying plural wives seemed to make sense. It made sense until I fell in love with a young woman who told me it was unfair. That in polygamy women had to deal with sharing, jealousy, and etc. while a man had none of that to deal with. Her arguments were compelling to me, but so were the data and conclusions I had already drawn.
Answers to prayers do not always come, but my prayer about polygamy was answered when I saw two women working in a kitchen and felt… I experienced… the love the two women felt for one another. I know that polygamy can be every bit as good as that seen on Big Love… and better. I was puzzled a bit as my vision of plural marriage had not included the husband, but my conclusion was that what I had seen was the critical element that made polygamy essential and monogamy archaic and failing.
In reading a book on friendship I was astounded to read that women can love their best friend as much or almost as much as they do their lover. I was astounded because I have never loved my best friend anywhere near the degree as the woman I loved. It was also very interesting to me how women were used in helping to tame and civilize Australia, it being in their very natures. This is understandable considering their gentle, compassionate, and nurturing nature.
It was taught that our marriages could continue in the next life if we were worthy, but that the only qualifying marriages would be with plural wives. One man and one woman would not qualify for marriage in the next life. Why could this be? Is there anything a man with two wives can do that a man with one wife cannot also do with a little more time? If my vision was showing me more than just polygamy, but the true reason behind it then men are incapable of giving women all the love they need. In some way men lack the understanding and or the ability to fulfill a woman in all the ways that a woman needs to be fulfilled. There is evidence of women’s abilities and needs that transcend men and their understanding. Most likely (if I am correct) women can feel and understand through their feelings that what I am saying is true, while men, if they are to get it at all, will only gain an understanding in part through their minds. Women have it all in and through their hearts.
I think the scriptures say that the value of a virtuous woman is above rubies. When I think of the value of women and what they can be it makes me almost want to bow down and worship them. The thought of men having plural wives primarily for sexual purposes is so demeaning when there is an understanding of all that women are. That many polygamous, monogamous, and bachelor men look at women as sex ob