Still Looking

I believe in soul mates. I believe everybody out there has someone who is the other half of there soul... a perfect match....

Unfortantely, I have married a man who is not my soul mate...

I was young and in love, but in hindsight it is easy to see that we are two very different people and not a good match...

I love my husband but would like to meet my soulmate just to see what it is like.... to know the other half of your soul..... Even if we were just friends...

But then... the down side is... that if you were to meet the other half of your soul... would you be so drawn to that person that you would be willing to sacrifice anything for them... including your marriage....

I think I would....

It's a difficult place to be....

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2 Responses May 19, 2009

Hello!<br />
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I hope that you are well and happy.<br />
But if what you say is true then perhaps your happiness is limited.<br />
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I do not know the background of your story and therefore can't really say too much, but I have a thought for you...<br />
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If you are feeling this way then perhaps your heart has already left.<br />
But that is not necessarily the right path.<br />
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If you are staying only until your soul-mate shows up and could very well leave at any tick of the clock for greater happiness, then you may have unresolved security issues which could lead to an everlasting search for a soul mate who may already be right by your side.<br />
I have known women who move from one relationship to the next without pause for thought, searching for something outside of themselves that can only be found inside themselves. It only ever brings them greater and greater heartache and desperation as the years go by.<br />
I would not like for this to happen to you.<br />
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Your story sounded almost like a plea for someone to come along and rescue you from the plight you're in. Almost like an invitation...<br />
I wonder about the sub-conscious motivations for it.<br />
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I often say that if the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, try watering your own lawn.<br />
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I sincerely hope that I have not offended you with my straight-forwardness. It is said only out of a desire to help by attempting to reach the core of the issue.<br />
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Anyway, if none of the above seems right for you then may I suggest marriage counselling to uncover all the issues between you and your spouse.<br />
Even greater courage than you have shown in baring your heart would be required for any counselling to be effective.<br />
There would be issues that could be very sensitive or painful to both of you. But the effort is worth the result.<br />
Whether you stay or go, you could do so with an honestly clear conscience.<br />
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I hope it works out well for you and would like to chat further if that's ok with you.<br />
Please let me know what you think about that.<br />
Thanks.<br />
In any case, I will chant specific prayers for the happiness of everyone involved.<br />
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Good luck & best wishes,<br />
M

i think the reason that alot of couples that have got together when young drift apart, is that when you get older you often want different things to when you were young.