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I Believe In Soulmates

Thought I'd Been In Love Before.....

By: grania
Written on May 13th, 2012
By: grania
Age: 56-60 , Female
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    Oh, man, the first night I spent with him I ran away intending never to return. Unfortunately, I grabbed a pair of glasses from the dresser that were not my own so I had to come back. Been here ever since.



    He's stuck by me in the past year through some real rough stuff dealing with my former marriage. We were separated for 6 weeks while I was enforcing the division of assets that my ex was trying to actually steal from me and at this age it's about 2/3 of my income. We were miserable apart.



    He's my best friend and partner, surprisingly insightful and thoughtful. He centers me. He adores me and I do whatever I can to make his life easier. It's weird, but little things don't bother me when in three marriages where I've experienced just about everything they drove me nuts. I had a gay husband, a cheating husband who hit me, and a husband who was emotionally extremely abusive and allowed (maybe encouraged) his family in the same behavior. I've seen a lot, raised 9 kids and I was more apprehensive about this relationship than any of them. Why? Because this one could actually hurt me.



    And yet he never would. His brothers and sisters tell me he was an angel little brother which I poo poo to him. But I suspect it's close to true. Oh, he gets impatient with projects that I love (remodeling, how could you not love the mess & inconvenience?) but never with me.



    And when he first said "I love you, " I got chills. Why? Because I was married to three men who never used my name. Or even a nickname, or a lover's name. Do you know how anonymous that makes you? It bothered me so much.



    His family love me and I am actively involved in their lives; most are a lot older than he. His son and his girlfriend call and text all the time. My own family are mostly gone so it's precious to me. Out of the kids only 3 were my own and two of them don't approve. I can see their point, after all, so I'm patient. The third is a sweet, accepting kid but lives far away so I don't get to see him often.



    The only thing that I could wish for is naturally lots of money, but we have enough. The money would be for living at Harry Potter World and new shoes - I could clean out entire malls. But yesterday I ordered a couple of pairs from Coach outlet cheaper than Nikes, so I'm stoked!



    What I cannot see is me without this guy as my intimate and ETERNAL (if it exists) partner!

    May 23, 2012
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      FashionQueen86

      Wow! He definitely sounds like he's it. Especially when he stood by you and helped you with your settlements. I think it is VERY healthy that you are staying involved in his family. I think that's the best start.

      May 23, 2012
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    You must have some tingly feelings going up your back and butterflies in your stomach. People always say there is someone for everybody and I really wonder how true that is becuase there are people who live fine as a single person.



    The question I'm wanting to know is can you really see yourself with this guy as your intimate and LIFETIME partner for the rest of your life or do you just like the idea of him being the one? Your story sounds very exciting and all I can say is enjoy every moment, don't rush anything and try to let things fall into place. :)

    May 22, 2012
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