25 Years Of Marriage

I have been waiting for him to step up and take the lead.

I am tired and frustrated and he is clueless.
Solelyme Solelyme
46-50, F
1 Response Jan 11, 2013

I’m sorry that things aren’t going as you desire. You mentioned that your husband is clueless. Have you had opportunity to communicate what you are feeling and wanting to him? I am a big believer in communicating changes in a relationship especially if a wife decides to become submissive (or more submissive) and desires her husband’s leadership. Good communication can help avoid resentment and promote positive feedback and changes. This type of relationship change is significant, and I believe it really helps to have things out in the open. I hope things get better.

Thank You. I have been the strong one for the past 24 years. Raising our kids while he was working odd hours. I pick up the slack where he is not able, but now that we are going to church. Family is my first priority and always will be, but what I keep hearing is that he should be doing a lot of the things that I am trying to do. I wait for him to do things or make decisions, I end up doing it myself because it isn't done, fixed, paid....what not.
Yes, I do need to convey my thoughts to him a little more.