Preparing Our DaughterOur eldest step daughter struggles at school and is counting down the days to when she leaves. She does try hard at school but can't put things across when it comes to written exams. She has shared with me some of her thoughts and said she wants to be a mummy herself when she is older. She is far to young for this now, she is coming up to 16 and has not dated (hubby wouldn't allow it yet anyway).
My husband has openly adopted the thought of encouraging her to be a Christian wife and mother like I am. She is still very much under the control of her daddy and is still spanked if she is misbehaves. I have explained that when she is married she may also get disciplined by her future husband. She does accept this.
I have shown her how men need to be looked after, how rewarding a housewife can be and she is taking on more chores and loves to welcome her daddy with a glass of wine he walks in. All skills that be transferred to a future husband. She still struggles with clothing and would wear short skirts or jeans if she could get away with it. We have recently introduced her to stockings at the weekend and when she leaves school she will wear stockings or holdups most of the time.
Right now she is helping around more at home and her daddy is very impressed with her attitude. I have touched on the aspects of a traditional marriage and what it entails and we have read parts of the bible that this relates to. We have also been shopping for new clothes in accordance with our rules to get her ready to dress with modest. This is the biggest challenge so far as she thinks short skirts and bare legs are suitable, something hubby spanked for her last week when she was picked up from school unannounced with her skirt raised up and her tights removed.
For me, I dress for my husband and he chooses my clothing range and often comes shopping. Getting dressed in the morning is to impress him and we will be instilling this to our dd.
It would be interesting to hear other peoples views on this and how they prepare their children for marriage and the outside world.
jopearsonuk 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 Feb 4, 2013