I Believe In Unconditional Love

After We've Done Everything We Can!

By: snpom

Written on December 8th, 2011

U know I realized very early on in life if I want to be luved unconditionally, then I have to luv unconditionally. Unfortunately society teaches us to luv with conditions, and a whole lot of them to. Thus alas most relationships are doomed before they even begin.. So I rolled my sleves up and started to work on myself, I started undoing all or most of what society has taught me concerning life and primarily relationships.. Oh I broke a few hearts along the way, and got mine broken a few times to. But finally after all the pain after all the anguish and heart aches, I finally got it right, I learned how to luv unconditionally.. it is not about whether or not it is reciprocated, but it is all about what flows out from u regardless.. Luving this way also had other benefits, I discovered one of them was inner peace, another was feeling secure within ones self, it made me view life on the easy rail. I developed heaps and heaps of patience to, now that I must admit was one of the bigger benifits.. So after u have done everything u can, I would like to submit, that has been the problem. It is us, we continue to get in our own way.. Well, try a new way, and uncharted path. Try to give and don't expect anything back, try to listen and not say a word back because u know what u might say would only add fuel to an already out of control fire, and finally but not least, try to luv with all ure heart even if it does not come back.. It will make u a better person for when the right person comes along..Trust me, it really does work.. Well, ask me how I know!!! JAH bless

By: snpom

Age: 46-50 , Male

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kimsgibbson

Great inspiration n so true..now that i think about it i may have been a victim of loving conditionally..thanx for the post.i will def do w

at you did

Dec 9, 2011
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- snpom
  Well, all I know is I became free, and wow, what a feeling..I expect no more than I could give and that's how it should be. Most of the time we want our partners to be more than we are or even could ever be!!! Anyway, those old ways have now been removed and I know I am a much better person because of it..Smile!! I know u will be to!! JAH bless
  
  Dec 9, 2011
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VTMarkus

This is one of the best things I've read on EP. You are a true teacher and a big inspiration! Thanks for posting- may it be read by everyone who visits this site-

Dec 8, 2011
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- snpom
  Thank u my friend, I am a student of life I don't ask to many why's because life just seems to keep on coming up with things that my little finite mind can't even begin to comprehend. But I do try to figure out how I would react to life's dilemmas, and what the best course of action with the least repercussions possible would be. Sometimes my response is spot on, and then other times if only the earth would open up and receive me,lol... Bet uve been there to right!!! But that's the beauty of life, as long as we continue to learn, we continue to grow, not just appear to.. So everyday, I try, and try and try some more...JAH bless
  
  Dec 8, 2011
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craazzeecalamity

You are absolutely right....

And it takes forgiveness, and even learning to love your enemy. Not always an easy task...

Dec 8, 2011
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- snpom
  Yes that's another one my friend, forgiveness, now u r sooo right, dat's a hard one, I mean when did we ever learn that one, if ever..Some one hurts us, and we must forgive them..Yeh right!!! But yesss that is part of the unconditional luv..of course I am not saying to act out the luv blindly.. But to truly forgive is an act of luv...!!!
  
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- craazzeecalamity
  Forgiveness is important for the self.. because you are releasing your own self from feelings of anger toward the person who wronged you, so people need to see it as being a positive for themselves. By forgiving the other, you are actually giving more love to yourself, which only leads to better things. When you start seeing it that way, it is so much easier to forgive.
  
  Dec 9, 2011
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TwilightDream

Great Post, my true friend.....I, too, learned this after years of thinking that love had conditions, such as :" If he loved me, he would do what I want this weekend, and go see a movie" I gotta tell ya, that is a load of crap, and I was self absorbed......It took me a while, but I learned the same lesson.....People would be surprised at the difference this can make, with a partner in which you already have a decent relationship. I just want to point out, that, there are circumstances where this wouldn't work. Such as one partner taking advantage of the situation, someone who is controlling, and manipulative............................Thank you my friend....**smiling***

Dec 8, 2011
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- snpom
  U know Kim, here's another lie society has been telling us, that 'if u are in luv with some one then that's who u should be with'.!!! Nope, being in luv does not mean compatibility, it could mean friendship or even just tolerance, but full fledge relationship, hell no..Smile!!!
  . Thats another one of lifes lessons for me.. But I learned that one early, thank God!!! People say luv is blind, but not so, it is us, we blind ourselves because we do not want to face facts that the person we claim to luv has way to many red flags and we should walk away, Oh no, that's just way to easy, so we get involved when we know deep down inside we should not, then we blame it on luv, or that partner, or the car, lol etc, u know what I mean!!!. We find the most faults with everyone else but the person who allowed it!!!Now I am not saying that we can't be fooled, cause there are some serious silver tongued people out there. But for the most part, we choose to ignore the warning signs until we are flying off of a cliff called deep regrets...There is a huge difference with true luv I think, if u r confused about if u have it or not and u r trying to convince ureself that it exists between u and ure partner when it clearly does not, then walk away.. How does one tell the difference Time and patience with both eyes wide open. Luv is not invisible, if it is, guess what, it is not there,lol.. I believe we can see luv, because it is a verb, therefor it should be seen.. if we have to turn over every rock to find it, my advice, don't bother, as it will come out when it's good and ready, smile!!! I luv living learning and most of all true luving!!!What an awesome adventure life can be..When my time comes to move on, I am trying to live so that I wont have to many regrets.. What about U my friend
  
  Dec 8, 2011
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- TwilightDream
  Yes, I too am trying to live and have very few regrets at the end, The reason is that I didn't change a few things sooner in life that would have made things easier and better for the both of us years ago, so I will always have that one regret. I can/t turn back the clock, but I can look ahead, and try to make sure that I don't make any more mistakes that I can't fix.........**smiling** Thank you, JAH-D Blessings to u and ures,,,,,,,,,
  
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niNa8mOdigli

You are right... there's nothing better than inner peace and a heart full of love :)

Dec 8, 2011
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- snpom
  Yes I think so to....Some times we need to be still!!! Not ust on the outside but inside ourselves to!!!!
  
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MorningBreeze

wow... *smile* amazing. yup, you are correct.

Dec 8, 2011
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- snpom
  Thank U for stopping by, and thanks for the comment ..Hope u are well today ..JAH bless
  
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