The Way You Make Me Feel..THE WAY YOU MAKE ME FEEL..
Just a thought, If we love those who make us feel good, isn’t it normal to avoid those who make us think badly of ourselves?
I love you for not only what you are, but for what you make me feel, when I am with you. Somehow I am someone who strongly feels and believes this and honestly probably due to the same reason; have fell in love a lot of times.
Love is what you become when you are with a loved one.
Remember melting into sheer gooey chocolate, being able to hear blood sing in your veins, butterflies flying all over your stomach, having your heart leap into your thought? That lightness of heart, step and body? That thrill? The tingling of your fingernails? All this and more at the sight of your loved one! When time seems to fly and hours become seconds. When waiting for few seconds or minutes seem like years? When you live for the next meeting, and when the sound of your loved one feels like drops of rain on parched desert sand!
You know you love him or her. And yet, you know you actually love the way your loved one makes you feel. After all, could you ever love a person who dislikes you, makes you feel small, or humiliates you?
Why do we always love people who make us feel beautiful and 10 ft tall?
Why just romance? An appreciative boss, a genuine friend, a proud parent, a doting spouse has a similar effect. All of them can make you feel on top of the world and always bring a smile on your face!
All of us love to love ourselves. And appreciation from those we love and admire can have a therapeutic and rejuvenating effect. And naturally having tasted the heady feeling, we are drawn to people who make us feel in love with OURSELVES.
Is not the reverse just as true? We tend to dislike people who bring out the worst in us and generally avoid them. They bring a dose of negativity in us and that is best avoided. When you know someone thinks badly of you, being in their company lowers you in your own eyes. Being with them only puts a lot of stress in you.
Clearly there are people who bring out the best and worst in you. Some people in our lives can make us break into spontaneous laughter while others can bring out jaw aching artificial smiles. There are those in whose presence we relax and others who make us feel tensed, stressed and on edge! We talk to someone without fear and to others measuring each word.
And most of the times, these instant likes and dislikes are mutual. In a scenario, where both give each other positive strokes the relationship grows steadily since a source of mutual admiration is found.
When in love, you end up creating an illusionary world around you where you feel exclusively loved and admired. You seek more and more of good vibes and attraction grows. And when love sneaks away and admiration gives way to reality check and tint of criticism, the adrenaline just doesn’t pump as hard as before. Here the color palette changes unfortunately. You no longer feel beautiful, a loved or cared for.
It is natural to love and seek people for the good they bring in you. It is equally natural to dislike and avoid them when they bring the worst in you, when they bring out negative emotions such as envy, hatred, jealous, anger, aggression or hatred. Unfortunately my such thinking has left me with no real friends as such but the end of the day atleast I am happy that I didn’t hurt myself and my soul.
We love people who love us and couldn’t care less about those who don’t. And there is nothing wrong with that I believe. Why waste with those rather than help with your growth? Any 2 people who really care for each other will always help each other grow.
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”- Roy Croft, mysterious American poet.