It's taken me a long time to learn that there's a difference between loving someone unconditionally and being a doormat. Someone once told me "some people you need to love from a distance". I have realised that I can love someone unconditionally, but that I cannot live with them... coexist in a relationship... unconditionally. So, as I'm sitting here at the end of my marriage, contemplating, I'm realising this - I loved him when he cheated on me, when he humiliated me, when he rejected me... I still love him and I probably always will - no conditions there. But I cannot live with him and still honour myself - because he cheats on me, humiliates me, rejects me. I will simply love him from a distance instead.