When Ministers Fail....and Fail Badly!!!

DEAR UNITY FRIEND, THE ASSOCIATION OF UNITY CHURCHES CALLED IT AUTONOMY. MY FAMILY AND I CALL IT NEGLIGENCE, INCOMPETENCE, CRUELTY AND INSANITY. PLEASE READ ON. WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO READ IS A TRUE STORY. NO LIES, EXAGGERATIONS, OR EMBELLISHMENTS EXIST. I THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR READING THIS.

MY NAME IS DEBORAH ILENE LAWRENCE. I AM ALMOST 59 YEARS OLD. FOR TWENTY-ONE YEARS NOW, I HAVE LIVED A HORRENDOUS NIGHTMARE THAT WAS UNDESERVED, CRUEL, DELIBERATELY PLANNED, CRIMINAL, AND MALICIOUSLY ENJOYED BY THOSE WHO PERPETRATED IT. TO THIS DAY, THIS MATTER WAS NEVER MADE RIGHT OR APOLOGISED FOR IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM. FROM MARCH 1987-MAY-1989, MY HUSBAND OF NOW 38 YEARS, OUR FIVE THEN-YOUNG CHILDREN, AND I ATTENDED CHRIST CHURCH UNITY OF ANAHEIM, CALIFORNIA. REVEREND MARIO DE FERRARI WAS THE MINISTER THERE AT THAT TIME. DURING OUR TWO YEARS THERE, I ATTENDED EVERY SERVICE, EVERY CLASS, AND HELD EVERY POSITION POSSIBLE. I JOINED THE LAY MINISTRY PROGRAM, SERVED ON THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS AS AN ALTERNATE AND A RECORDING SECRETARY, AND WAS EDITOR OF THE UNITICKER NEWSLETTER. OUR OLDEST DAUGHTER WAS THE SUNDAY SCHOOL NURSERY BABYSITTER, AND MY HUSBAND EVEN CHANGED THE CHURCH SIGN WEEKLY. WE ALL GOT ALONG VERY WELL WITH EVERYONE AT THE CHURCH. THAT IS WHY WHAT HAPPENED WAS SO SHOCKING AND UNEXPECTED. PLEASE READ ON.

DURING MAY, 1989, MARIO DECIDED HE NO LONGER WANTED ME AROUND. NO VALID REASON WAS EVER PROVIDED. WHAT FOLLOWED WAS A TWENTY-ONE YEAR NIGHTMARE THAT COST ME MANY MONTHS OF MY FREEDOM AND NEARLY MY LIFE!!! I WAS WRONGFULLY FORCED OUT OF THE CHURCH. BOARD MEMBERS EXCOMMUNICATED ME WITHOUT ALLOWING ME TO HAVE A SAY IN THE MATTER, DESPITE THE FACT THAT I WAS ON THAT BOARD. MY RETREAT TO THREE RIVERS WAS CANCELED. AFTER COMPLETING NEARLY THE ENTIRE EIGHT MONTH LAY MINISTRY PROGRAM, MARIO REFUSED ME COMPLETION OF THE LAST TWO CLASSES AND MY CERTIFICATE. HATE MAIL WAS SENT TO MY HOME. MARIO SENT ONE MEMBER TO MY HOME WHO PUNCHED ME IN MY FACE, AND SAID IT WAS FROM MARIO!! I WAS SLANDERED IN THE NEWSPAPER. THREATENING EMAILS WERE SENT TO MY JOB, AND INSULTING AND THREATENING MAIL SENT TO MY HOME. CALLS FROM CHURCH MEMBERS, IMPERSONATING POLICE OFFICERS WERE MADE TO MY HOME IN AN EFFORT TO SCARE ME. OTHERS WOULD PHONE ME AND UN-INVITE ME TO WEDDINGS AND OTHER EVENTS. MARIO NEVER ONCE APOLOGIZED FOR ANYTHING HE SAID OR DID. HE CONTINUED HIS HATE CAMPAIGN AGAINST ME, WITH LETTERS FROM ATTORNEYS , AND THREATS FROM POLICE TRYING TO SCARE ME.FURTHER. I TRIED OFTEN AND IN VAIN FOR A RECONCILIATION, SO ALL OF THIS WOULD STOP, BUT MY CALLS WERE EITHER LAUGHED AT OR IGNORED. THE AUC, ITS BOARD, AND MANY REGIONAL OFFICERS WERE WERE CONTACTED HUNDREDS OF TIMES OVER THE PAST TWENTY YEARS. THEY REFUSED TO RESPOND, CARE, OR GET INVOLVED. REVEREND JOANN LANDRETH WAS FULLY AWARE OF EVERYTHING FROM DAY ONE. REFUSING TO CARE OR HELP, SHE ADAMENTLY DECLARED AUTONOMY, AND, TO THIS DAY, OFFERS TO "PRAY IT ALL AWAY". SHE SENT ME SPIRITUAL LITERATURE INSTEAD, BUT TURNS A DEAF EAR AND A BLIND EYE TO WHAT MARIO AND HIS CHURCH DID TO ME. SHE AND THE REST OF THEM DO NOT CARE. THEN....THINGS GOT WORSE....MUCH, MUCH WORSE....PLEASE READ ON....

DUE TO THE RAPID PROGRESSION OF THIS HATE CAMPAIGN AGAINST MY FAMILY AND I, THIS MATTER EVENTUALLY ENDED UP IN COURT. DECIDING I NEEDED A JUDGE TO LISTEN TO WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AT THAT HATEFUL. SPITEFUL CULT, I WENT TO TRIAL. WHEN CALLED TO THE WITNESS STAND, MARIO LIED REPEATEDLY UNDER OATH. EVEN THE JUDGE SAW IT. ALTHOUGH THE JUDGE, MY ATTORNEY AND I ALL KNEW THE REAL TRUTH, THE JURY BELIEVED MARIO'S FELONIOUS LIES. THE MOTHER OF FIVE YOUNG CHILDREN WAS SENT TO JAIL FOR A LONG TIME DUE TO MARIO'S LIES. THEY DID NOT CARE. EVENTUALLY, I ENDED UP IN CARDIAC CARE FOR A WEEK, NEAR DEATH, DUE TO ALL THE STRESS. STILL NOT CARING, HATE MAIL STILL KEPT ARRIVING FROM THE CHURCH. NO AMOUNT OF BEGGING OR PLEADING WOULD STOP THEM. THEY WERE DETERMINED TO DESTROY ME;. THE AUC DID NOT CARE HOW BAD IT WAS GETTING. "PRAY IT ALL AWAY" WAS THEIR ONLY RESPONSE. REVERENDS GLEN MOSELY AND JAMES TRAPP ARE FULLY AWARE OF ALL OF THIS, BUT REFUSE TO RETURN CALLS OR EMAILS. REVEREND JOANN LANDRETH IGNORED THE FIRST 14 YEARS OF MY PHONE CALLS. WHEN SHE FINALLY DID RETURN A CALL TO ME, IT WAS TO BEG ME TO "FORGET THIS EVER HAPPENED", SAYING THAT SHE WAS SURE MARIO HAD 'FORGOTTEN ALL ABOUT IT BY NOW" !!!! SHE ATTEMPTED BOTH VERBALLY AND IN WRITING TO APOLOGIZE FOR HIM!!! SHE ALSO SAID THAT THEY WERE STILL 'PRAYING FOR ME" EVEN WHEN INFORMED OF MY INTENT TO PUBLICIZE MY STORY AND GIVE MY CASE BACK TO THE DISTRICT ATTORNEY FOR RE-REVIEW AND POSSIBLE PROSECUTION OF ALL INVOLVED IN HURTING ME, SHE STILL REFUSED TO GET INVOLVED. SHE ALSO REFUSED TO GIVE THIS MATTER TO ANYONE WHO WOULD HELP. I WAS NOT EVEN BEING TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING.

THOSE INQUIRING INTO WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AT CHRIST CHURCH UNITY OF ANAHEIM ARE NOT BEING TOLD THE TRUE STORY. THEY ARE EITHER BEING FED LIES ABOUT THINGS THAT NEVER EVEN HAPPENED, OR OR TOLD EVENTS OUT OF CONTEXT. YOU WILL NEVER, EVER GET THE TRUTH FROM MARIO. HE LIED REPEATEDLY ON THE WITNESS STAND AND HAS BEEN LYING EVER SINCE. HE WAS NEVER ABLE TO FACE ME LIKE A MAN EVEN ONCE IN TWENTY-ONE YEARS, AND I SINCERELY DOUBT HE EVER WILL. THOSE WHO HELPED HIM DO WHAT HE DID, OR KNEW ABOUT IT AND NEVER CARED ENOUGH TO GET INVOLVED AND MAKE IT RIGHT ARE, IN MY OPINION, JUST AS BAD AS HE IS. SHAME ON THEM!! CLAIMING TO BE CHURCH PEOPLE, SERVING GOD?? WHAT NERVE!! WOULD JESUS HAVE APPROVED??

I INFORMED EVERYONE INVOLVED THAT I WOULD POST MY STORY ONLINE FOR ALL TO READ IF THE MATTER WAS NOT RESOLVED. THEY IGNORED ME AND DID NOT CARE. JOANN LANDRETH TOLD ME THAT I HAD THE RIGHT TO "TAKE ACTION TO SEEK RESOLUTION". MARIO BLOCKED, SCREENED AND DELETED EVERYTHING CONCERNING ME.CHILDISH, IMMATURE LETTERS BRAGGING HOW HIS VOLUNTEERS WERE DELETING MY UNHEARD MESSAGES ARRIVED TO MY HOME. SUCH GUILT AND DENIAL!! HE SAID I WAS "RAMBLING TO MYSELF". FUNNY HOW MARIO USED TO CALL ME HIS "SUCCESS OF THE CHURCH" IN FRONT OF THE ENTIRE CONGREGATION. HE SEEMED NOW TO BE QUITE PROUD OF HURTING ME INSTEAD. THE MORE HE COULD INFLICT PAIN, IT SEEMED. THE MORE HE TOOK GREAT PLEASURE IN IT.


NOT ONCE DID ANYONE EVER EXPLAIN TO ME WHY THEY ALL FELT I DESERVED TO BE TREATED IN SUCH AN ATROCIOUS MANNER. MY HUSBAND AND CHILDREN WERE DEVASTATED TO SEE THEIR WIFE AND MOTHER TREATED SO HORRIBLY!! AS OF THIS WRITING, MARIO HAS NEVER ONCE FACED ME OR APOLOGIZED EVEN ONCE IN TWENTY-ONE YEARS. NEITHER DID ANYONE ELSE. THEY HAD TWENTY-ONE YEARS TO FIX THIS, AND THEY REFUSED. THEY CHOSE BLOCKING, SCREENING, DELETING AND IGNORING INSTEAD. THEY MADE THEIR CHOICES. THOSE CHOICES NEARLY DESTROYED ME. NOW I HAVE MADE MY CHOICES. I AM KEEPING MY STORY POSTED ONLINE FOR ALL TO READ ALL ABOUT THE HEARTLESS ANIMALS THAT NOT ONLY RUN CHRIST CHURCH UNITY OF ANAHEIM, BUT THE ASSOCIATION OF UNITY CHURCHES AS WELL.

DURING THE PAST YEAR, I LOGGED ONTO UNITY.ORG, OPENED AN ACCOUNT OVER THE PAST FEW MONTHS, USING MY REQUIRED EMAIL ADDRESS, AND WAS PROMPTLY REJECTED! UNDAUNTED, I RE-OPENED IT AGAIN AND AGAIN, USING MORE OF MY EMAIL ADDRESSES, POSTED MY STORY ON THE BLORUM PAGE AND IT WAS PROMPTLY AND REPEATEDLY DELETED. THE ACCOUNT CONTINUES TO BE REJECTED. NEW UPDATES AS OF MARCH 3, 2010: FOR SOME REASON, THEY HAVE ADDED ME TO A MAILING LIST, AND HAVE STARTED TO SEND ME PRAYER REQUEST FORMS, FREE OFFERS AND SUCH FROM THE ASSOCIATION OF UNITY CHURCHES. I BEGGED THEM THRU LETTERS, CALLS AND EMAIL TO TAKE ME OFF THESE LISTS BUT THEY REFUSE TO. ARE THEY MOCKING ME???? PERHAPS ONE DAY THEY WILL REALIZE THAT IGNORING, DELETING, BLOCKING, SCREENING AND PRAYING IT ALL AWAY IS NOT THE ANSWER. IT WILL NEVER BE THE ANSWER.

CONNIE WAITLEY, THE RECEPTIONIST AT THE ASSOCIATION OF UNITY CHURCHES, HAS NOT ONLY HUNG UP ON ME MANY TIMES FOR ABSOLUTELY NO REASON, HAS SENT MY CALLS STRAIGHT TO VOICE MAIL WHEN THE PERSON I NEED TO TALK TO IS THERE IN THE OFFICE (CONSTANTLY), BUT HER LATEST MADNESS INCLUDED PERMANENTLY HOOKING UP MY CELL PHONE NUMBER TO AN INSIDIOUS PRAYER LINE RECORDING!!!!!!

CALLS TO JOANN LANDRETH, BETS KIRBY, JAMES TRAPP, AND SUSAN BECK, INFORMING THEM OF THE POSSIBLITY OF MY STORY BEING AIRED ON NATIONAL TV WERE IGNORED. THE STEVE WILKOS SHOW IN CONNETICUT HAS EXPRESSED A REPEATED INTEREST IN THIS STORY FOR THEIR PROGRAM, AND AN APPEARANCE BY ME ON THAT SHOW, SHARING MY STORY IS POSSIBLY PENDING. IF I GET APPROVED FOR THE PROGRAM, I WILL DEFINITELY APPEAR AND SHARE WITH MILLIONS OF VIEWERS EVERYTHING I WENT THRU. IF NECESSARY, I WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO SUBMIT TO ANY AND ALL POLYGRAPH TESTS TO PROVE THAT I AM TELLING THE TRUTH!! GOD BLESS YOU FOR READING MY STORY.

DEBORAH


WHISTLEBLOWER WHISTLEBLOWER
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1 Response Mar 9, 2010

Dear Debra,
I joined the church after you were there. As a therapist you're obsessed with this church and made it into a hate filled kindergarden. Yes lady LET it go and from reading this you're really mentally ILL. i know mario and he is a blessing and has no negativity such as yours and i think several times I saw you and you acted like a rotton child and still do. Let it go. God is love so what your putting out there is soooooo opposite and when you type in capital letters it's like your screaming at us and my God sweetheart, your simply a trainwreak blaming the church for your failure at being a christian. You gossip, blame and deny any negativity on your part for a start. People are flawed but God is not and if your a christian your living in the DARK so STOP hating mario and LOVE your family or leave and stop hurrassing the poor people!!! YOU create reality and that was so TOXIC to read, i would never want to know you in that frame of mind. sorry

Mario married my sister in 1987... her wedding had to be posponed due to a board member not approving of an outside non church member getting married in the church. This woman even interrupted my sisters meetings with the Rev. And repeatedly humiated both my sister and Mario. The wedding happened and mario was amazingly loving during this whole ordeal. This insane post from deborah makes me wonder if she is the same person. I was also married by mario in 1993. Again mario was amazing. To the point that 21 years later, my husband and i will be traveling from colorado to California in the hopes we can renew our vows in this church. I pray for the original poster, and hopes she finds peace, and possibly anti psychotics for her deep seeded insane issues. This post is simply wrong on so many levels! To the therapist above me, thank you for eloquently saying what needed to be said, as i would not have used the same class and integrity! Ker

No....I am DEFINITELY NOT the same woman!!! I have been happily married to my husband for 44 years. We have 5 kids and 6 grandchildren. My story is not insane.....IT IS THE TRUTH!!! Unless you were there and SAW WHAT HAPPENED.... SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND KEEP YOUR OPINIONS TO YOURSELF!!!! Mario USED to be a very nice man....and he turned into a monster, hurt my entire family, and was never even man enough to apologize!! So SHUT UP!!!

You are a liar!! I We never knew each other!! Unless you were there to actually SEE AND WITNESS the living hell that man put us through and never apologized for, SHUT YOUR MOUTH!!! I shall continue to share this story until I die!!! I was more of a help to Mario and his CULT than you can ever imagine, and he treated us like dirt!!! Watch out......he will eventually do it to you as well!!!!

P.S. You claim your sister got married there in 87. What happened to me WAS IN 1989!! Learn to read!! Also, we renewed our wedding vows there. Wish we had gone somewhere else, where a REAL MINISTER was presiding.....not a freaking joke like Mario!!!

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