I agreed before I was married that this what what our life would be. My husband - Master - was prepared to rein in some of my worst habits and discipline me. We discussed our roles and what that meant to us, and what our attitudes to one another needed to be for the emotional satisfaction we both needed. Master already knew several happy households of DD couples (including a polygamous gentleman farmer.) We have get togethers with these people, sometimes for a whole weekend, and for me it's very relaxing to be able to confide and speak freely in front of other women. Believe it or not the men gather to talk about problems with disciplining, and come up with solutions just like agony uncles! The downside is that they also exchange ideas on punishment techniques too - which is why there is a Loopy Johnny in our house. Just for the record I hate and fear that thing. It bloody hurts!