She Just Left For Home And I Won't See Her Again For A Year..I am not someone who believes in the 'one true love'. I don't believe in soul mates or anything like that. If you would have asked me before I met her I would have scoffed at the idea of a long distance relationship. I'm sure it has worked, but very rarely and definitely not for me.
We met on an online pen pal site. It started as just friends and neither of us ever imagined anything more nor would we have wanted it: A relationship with a stranger 13,000km away.. Eventually though I started to have feelings for her. After several months they came out and she did some soul searching and found she liked me too.
So then we were in a bit of a tricky situation. Can relationships across oceans work? We've never even met, what if it's different in real life? We planned on back packing together in about 1.5 years.. but what about after that? Who moves where? Do we uproot our life for the other person?
Well our feelings grew and grew despite our logical rejection for them. In August she realized that she'd have enough money to visit me and still go back packing later on. She booked tickets for December 12 (we met on the 14th a year earlier!). She came and it was amazing. It was way better than I even thought it'd be! It all felt so... natural! Like we were a newly married couple or something. I live with my sister and after she'd been there a week my sister thought it'd been a month. My sister said she thought that because it was so natural, like she was part of the family.
We visited my dad who lives about 4.5 hours north of us for Christmas and they all LOVED her. So did all of my friends.
She just left on the plane and it's terrible. I feel so awful, so many mixed emotions! And she feels bad and has very negative prospects for this next year. She is having a real difficult time believing that we will be able to last a whole other year.
I have full confidence that we will but it's going to be one heck of a ride..
8182miles 18-21, M 5 Responses 1 Jan 3, 2011