It Can Be Done

For a long time now, I've used this website as a way to read others' experiences to give me faith through my latest life difficulty.... my long distance relationship. Now, I've tackled what seemed to be an impossible hurdle, and I feel I owe it to others out there who might need the same encouragement I was searching for.

We were separated by over one thousand miles and one whole time zone. When I found out that we had no option but to either go long distance or go our separate ways, I was devastated. Of course I wasn't going to give up on my otherwise strong, healthy relationship, but the knowledge of what was going to happen ripped me apart every minute of every day. There was so much fear... So many unknowns. Would the distance rip us apart? Would he meet someone new? Would we ever be able to be in the same place again?

After he moved, it was one of the hardest transitions I've ever gone through. There were many nights I felt that we should just give up, that the silence of my lonely apartment was too strong, that the pain of being so far away was too much. Those were the nights I would come places like here, to read others' stories of overcoming those kinds of nights. I fed off of it, and honestly I don't know what I would've done without it.

Fast forward to today, many months later, and he's still over one thousand miles away. But today, I have a light at the end of my tunnel, growing brighter and stronger every day. In a matter of weeks, I'll be moving to be with him. The sense of strength, of overcoming one of the hardest times of my life, is empowering. After believing that it wouldn't work out for so long, being able to say that I accomplished this is one of the best feelings in the world.

If anyone is looking for words of advice about long distance... Keep your chin up. Don't let them know how horrible you feel every time you feel that way; if you let the sadness take over, it will overcome you and your relationship. Immerse yourself in work, or whatever keeps your mind somewhere else if you can. Stay patient, stay calm, and you must have trust in your SO. Worrying doesn't solve anything. It can be done!

The one thing, without a doubt, that got us through is my SO. Not once did he ever say he couldn't do this, or that he wanted to quit. Every day I got my good morning text. Even the days we worked opposite shifts, we'd always text "I love you" before bed. When I was crying and sad, he would always be a positive light for me. Never once did we get angry with one another. We would always work out a visit once a month. We functioned truly as a team, and it was always worth it. If you have a significant other that will do this for you, and if you can return the favor, you can do anything.
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26-30, F
1 Response Dec 9, 2012

wow, you really lucked out being able to see him once a month. i havent seen my man in 5 months and it could be another 6 before i see him. i cant wait for that day that your about to experience. good luck.

I met a lady online and we have been talking about 3 months and plan on trying to get together next spring. Good luck.

It took lots of sacrifice to see each other once a month; since we both live in kind of obscure areas, plane tickets are close to $700 round trip. We each paid half and helped the other out in any way possible when money got tight for either of us. And didn't get angry when one of us sometimes had to work while the other was visiting :-)

I hope you both get to see your significant others soon. Good luck to both of you!