I Believe People Come Into Our Life For A Reason.

My best example of this,was my worst relationship ever. I learned from my ex bf everything I wanted in my life and what I did not want in my life. I am a very caring, kindhearted, spiritual, open, honest person. I have always been a loving person who loves to cuddle, kiss, hold hands, be open to new experiences sexual or otherwise. I believe your life should be shared 50/50 with the person you love, like working, housework, family decisions. He on the other hand even though in the beginning of the relationship stated he was all for these things slow showed me his real self. To reel me in he told me he would share all responsibilities and that he loves to be very affectionate, loves being adventurous, loves to cuddle and have naughty fun in bed every night. I think he just didn't want to be alone, he was definitely at the age of 45 still a mama's boy. As I quickly found out after he moved in with me, house work was women's work, and women had no business doing man's job. I almost choked as I found this out as he was having that discussion with his mother what made my jaw drop more is that she actually agree with him. I set him straight when we got home. For a guy that was overweight and not in the best of health saying he was better than a woman at something because he was a guy was unreal. Hell he couldn't even change a light bulb because he was afraid of heights. So I was working, plus all the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc For someone that appreciated it I would gladly have done it but he didn't. When I sat next to him watching t.v what he wanted sports, Nascar, fishing etc I would cuddle up with him, he would tell me to stop petting him to move over so I did. Bedtime, was a cold "goodnight" no sex at all. Sex for us was me giving him a BJ.  I cried many a nights to sleep. So I said enough is enough I am not going to live like this. I did some soul searching. Thought about what I really wanted in life. Got up the nerve to say goodbye. In making that list and telling myself I will never settle again. I found my soul mate. My husband is perfect for me we spend all of our time together, we finish each others sentences and most of all, I am getting all the affection I could ever ask for and more. So as bad a that relationship was I needed it so I could find truly what I wanted in life. Yes I believe sometimes bad things happen for a good reason even if we don't want them too. It truly is a way to grow as a person.
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1 Response Dec 12, 2012

this is exactly how I feel about hubby

he's not good for me, at one time he was, but when I'm ready for teh good, I don't think I could ever be ready for good w/o the bad