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Everyone Has Something to Teach Us ..

The following was sent to me at work and I think its just wonderful. It is written by BRIAN  A CHALKER.

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

The, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON...It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being part of my life.


 

Orangetas Orangetas 51-55, F 151 Responses Aug 21, 2008

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Loved this! And especially needed to hear the part about relationships coming to an end. Thank you for sharing this, although I see it was some time ago ...

I stopped by to read this again. Thank you, Tas...for this post, and for your friendship.

I have been without internet for last 36 hrs or so .. I have been worried what I am missing . ..

I hope your Internet troubles are resolved. Missed you... oxo

Me too :)

It's beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

I agree you let certain people in to your life for a reason.

this is a word of wisdom, especially dealing with difficult people in life.

Thanks for the reminder, dear friend.

<p>I do not think I can thank some people who came in my life, and their purpose or reason has affected me badly and always thought it would have been better if i never met them...<br />
I know when i was born no one promised me that it there would be only nice and happy moments in my life, i wish life would have been simpler.</p>

Are there also not some who have made your life brighter?

rarely yes.

Could it be that folks who make a negative impact on our lives have also been brought (or sent) in response to a need? Perhaps to learn patience or discernment or to face something within ourselves? In other words, is an experience only to be seen as good if it brings nothing we don\'t want to face?

I am not sure I understand...if the bad experiences out number the good ones wouldn\'t be too much for a person to bear?
If negative experiences are important - why would lil children need to face troublesome experiences and deal with them when they still have a long time to learn?

Yogis are among the mystics who are recognized as seeing such truths directly. They have said that nothing comes to us which we cannot bear. In fact, some folks who know the value of struggles can feel true gratitude when problems arise.

I\'m not sure about what you mean in your second question, but will answer what I believe it to mean, again from the wisdom given us by those same mystics. They speak, with one mind, about reincarnation and, reincarnation being real, we all have as long as necessary to learn. The question would become, in my mind, whether some lessons are given in childhood because, perhaps, we learn better at that time.

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Yes !! I believe in this too!I was so enlightened by your story!Thank you!<br />
So many people come through your life,some may good,some may bad,all kinds of people.Anyway there is a certain reason for all of them to come to your life.Be thankful for those ones who helped you when you were in any difficulties. And learn to be strong ,brave ,independent and wise from any bad experience which caused by the bad ones.<br />
Life is a wonderful journey.<br />
<br />
XOXO

This post clearly distinguish the different peoples came in my life... Never thought this way n felt bad about who were gud but not with me now.... I think its time to move on.. Real gud post to share...

This has made me.feel good. Thanks. !

Oh now this is a really good post.
Thought provoking and puts things in a different light for me. :-)

Yes, when a friend sent it to me I really needed to read it :)

Now that is a good friend. :-)
Funny ... I needed to read it now as well. :-)

I like that

You are right.

Interesting.....I feel this too. Sometimes we don't realize it, sometimes fleeting and it's only later that you realize what it was. Someone touches you, or you touch someones heart unexpectedly and never realized the impact you had on them.....I cherish these moments in time however long they last, sometimes it's advice, or just being a friend, or a simple touch, or a life lesson you needed..........Embrace it and be grateful for it is a gift............

A very profound article. Being a spiritual person I believe in most of what U say, but it has been my experience that people that come into your life rarely say or do something to end the encounter, but just move on as we must move on. I will ever be indebted to their help.

Soooooo what is the reason for Honey Boo Boo?

I have just read this post, in 2013....I had just posted a question here on the Experience Project for the first time. As I was poking around, seeing what the site had to offer, I read this post. The last paragraph answered the first and only question I have ever posted. My response was profound. I will accept my lesson, and "love the person, and put what I have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life".

Oh, that sounds good :)

So very true!

So true, I feel the same way, couldn't have said it better though :-) Thanks for sharing this xxx

Thank you for a lovely, perceptive story,nothing is by chance, the older I get the more I believe this,and I also believe we do not meet just in one lifetime,this is why we feel we have kown some people for ever even if they soon leave our life and wenever stop missing them .Take care.

When God (Allah) lets you meet or connect with someone, God (Allah) may be making that person for you either a LESSON or a TEST, while you are also a lesson or test for that person whom God (Allah) willed that you two would meet.

God (Allah) knows best :)

Oh my thank you this was lovely. He really knows what he talking about. God bless you both. Peace and love

love love love this post, thank you for sharing :)

:)

This is for all EP members, you have all touched my life one way or the other! Yes there's a reason why we met even through our readings and writings....Happy Thanksgiving to my extended family!

Thank You for the Post!!!!

This is so true.

I read this before but its nice to recollect the things again. Thanks for sharing...

Truly beautiful and very true x

beautiful post Tassie..thanks for sharing!

Life does teach us a lot of lesson that we, most of the time don't get to see with these "reasons" and during the "seasons" that we were with these God-sent people. It is then that I believe that indeed, No man is an island.

Wow....that was well put...thank you for sharing it. I loved reading it...and, again, best wishes, Tassie.

I have a world full of people to thank and yet to thank for touching my life. Thanks for a great post

I had a Brian Chalker for a music teacher when i was in middle school!!

Brilliant! Thank You~

I believe that you have answered a question which I saw as a meanness which was just help when I needed it. This person came into my life and then went out again and it hurt my feelings, but now I realize that my needs had been met. She's still an aquaintance, but we aren't as close as we once were. That was a time I needed help. Then I no longer needed it and she withdrew. I saw it as traitorous, but it was her time to move on and mine, as well. Thank you.

yes, it is very liberating to accept that many people will only be in our life for a short time. Some we are very pleased that's the case but others we wish could stay much longer :)

Wow thank you for sharing! I think about this all the time.

:)

wise words..good story...

:)

Hiya lazycrazybasket (great name) yes I think it is the most useful conclusion

Thank you.

Wonderful post, I've been doing some thinking lately, and believe it or not, come to the same conclusion.

Thank you both for taking the time to read and comment :)

This is sooo beautiful. It is sooo true. I got goose bumps reading it, because with every sentence I had a true memory of someone. Thank you for this.

What a lovely post.

Hi david, thanks for stopping by, I love reading this story , find it very calming somehow :)

Thank You for posting this strong powerful statement as to why people come and go in our lives. Reading it made me think of a friend that I have been getting to know the past 3 years and we have been in and out of touch for a variety of reasons. But deep down, we both know we care about each other. Thanks again for posting this.

I didnt write it but yes I think its correct :)

wow it's really complex to have many people in our life time and every of them really give an impact in my life stories. There is no coincidence, there is no wrong meeting people in our daily life. Thanks to all people i've ever met and share some pieces of their life to me.

I so loved this. It really got me to thinking. Love it!

: )

Wow this is so beautifully true. Inever thought about it like that thanks for sharing this

Hiya, thanks for reading :)

Beautiful words..being able to implement these wise words is the most difficult task in life...

Yes, I havent read this for a while but it is very special

These are really profound words. So full of hope.

yes :)

Thank you for coming into my life on EP now.

Thank you for reading it :)

Thank you Tasmin for sharing this wonderful post.

Wow nice .u currect

Wow nice .u currect

Wow nice .u currect

Thank you for sharing poem!! I have read many times over the past years via email from many friends who I love and appreciate. I have a lifetime friend, that may have only thought she was a seasonal friend. She left 9 mths ago...tears fall daily over missing her...a hole in soul until she returns!! I know she loves me, I know she is hurting (over a false situation)!! Maybe she (Carrie Anne) will see this response and know that she is in my life for a lifetime! I'm just waiting for you Carrie, only you!! My cell# is where you will always be able to find me!! I love you Carrie!!!!

It's weird but the friend who sent ot to me was a very strong part of my life but then she left and I have never heard from her since .. though I know where she is and what she is doing

Thank you but I think I explained how it was sent to me :)

I have been in many people's lives and i have helped and learned from them the knidness love hate jealousy and o chose to love and learned to be in peace when i parted myself from others or they parted from me.I consider my self to be a life coach and i want to share my power with another person that is as useful to human beings.i do consider this person to come to my life to be my partner as well so i am sending it to the universe and ask you to pray with me for me and for all others who are wishing the same thing for themselves.

This is beautiful and so well put. I love it thanks! Makes sense and its true.

I dont know Deppressedsangel .. <br />
<br />
Guess we dont really understand anything ..

I understand the fact that those people go when they have accomplished what God brought in our lives for but what i don't understand is why some people go when we still need them and why our lives can't be the same or get damaged without them.

people need people and we all need a holiday

Well it's quite stunning <br />
<br />
I may go and find myself a dress just as yummy :)

Yes, most becoming :)

Sometimes we are the one entering anothers life - to be the experience or reason. We find out later. I like tomato dress too.

Nice dress tomatoe

Thank you

this is fantastic very much enjoyed reading this thankyou. blessings.:)

Yes! Don't try to hold on to people when it's time to let them go. God may not have meant them to stay. Treasure those who God will allow to remain in your life forever.

I agree...

Oh, I am so sorry Bunnie. <br />
I love how you describe your friend as a good soul who liked you for being yourself and that you talked and laughed a lot together . <br />
It is too easy to think people will be there forever and then be totally shocked when suddenly they are no longer there :(

I just lost a dear work friend. I worked with him on a daily basis for about 4 years and then recently our department was dissolved and we all moved to other departments except him and our employer. He still got together with us all several times since August 2010 and we celebrated his birthday just on Jan. 9. He had a simple gall bladder surgery but then later needed a scope done to retrieve a couple of stones that were kinda stuck in there. The procedure or waiting 3 weeks to do it caused intestinal tears and after about 3 weeks in intensive care he died. This writing above just reminds me of my short but wonderful days with my friend. I lost someone who truly cared about me just because he was a good soul and he liked me for me and liked him for just being himself. We talked a lot and laughed and enjoyed politics and the spiritual side of our lives. I miss him.

wow,that is beautiful...

Yes, it is good to read

I think it is def true

I am very pleased to have happened across this post today...it comes at just the right time in my life to remind me, as I've been challenged emotionally, that everything happens for a reason. As the days pass, I am more clearly able to see the purpose.

I just found this post and I want thank you for sharing it with us.

Hmmm ... you can learn especially from people you dont like or feel good with

My personal experience is very different,most people i have met in my life are not even aware enough<br />
to see beyond there own nose,so how I can trust that the have a positive purpose in my life, let alone improve it.

love it, thank you x

true

I think we can def learn from everyone we meet

I think this could be true, I am feeling this way about things, even through people I haven't got on with in the past I suppose I have still actually learnt from the experience (even though it was crap at the time).

Thanis for the thoughts. It was a great read and more importantly a rich thought for the grieving I am not experiencing.<br />
<br />
Bev

And thank you too for reading and your comment

Hey turdboy, thanks for posting your reply. I would have never found this story had it not been for your note. You brought it to the top of the recent group activities.<br />
<br />
And tasmin, thanks for posting the story. It is so well written, and I'm glad you gave Brian Chalker his recognition as the author.<br />
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And thanks too, to all 66 commenters of the story... I read each one of your notes.

Thank yous to all the reasons, seasons, nd the one lifrtime iny life. This post is so true. Thank you for <br />
sharing.

I feel similar and dont know the answer .. but gues its to do with choices we make