Victims Blamed For Violation

This is rather depressing.


 In a survey of over 1,000 people in London conducted by the Haven service for rape victims in London  to mark their 10th anniversary,  most respondents said that the victim should bear some responsibility for the rape. Almost three quarters of the women his said if a victim got into bed with the assailant before an attack they should accept some responsibility. One third blamed victims who had dressed provocatively or gone back to the attacker's house for a drink. More than half of those of both sexes questioned said there were some circumstances when a rape victim should accept responsibility for an attack.

The study found that women were less forgiving of the victim than men. Of the women who believed some victims should take responsibility, 71% thought a person should accept responsibility when getting into bed with someone, compared with 57% of men. 

Sadly, these attitudes have a marked affect in a woman deciding whether to report a rape. The survey found that  more than one in 10 people were unsure whether they would report being raped to the police, and 2% said they would definitely not do so.

The victim is NEVER to blame for what is a violent act, a violation of the body, a cowardly act. Rape is rape is rape!!!!! Attitudes HAVE to change!

Mizz

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14 Responses Feb 15, 2010

Your avatar says it all, you pig. Your profile says even more. Bragging about raping a drunk girl, eh? Scum of the earth.

Yes, agreed, what a scummy, repulsive individual.

Thank you KingLelouch.<br />
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Yes, it is twisted. Sociey's attitudes are going in reverse.<br />
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Mizz

thats horrible! i cant blievie that! just twisted

You raise a number of very good points, xxtman. As you say, it is about power and control, and it is indicative of this society that some cannot understand the trauma, mental and physical, that stay with the victim. It is sad indeed.<br />
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Mizz

rape rarely if ever has anything to do with sex it is about power and control.the violence and often torture that usually goes along with rape is a cowardly act,on all levels.I am not too surprised at the answers given by the women or the men.these people are clueless and have no idea of the trauma rape victims suffer, not just the physical act, the long term mental damage caused by these savage rapists.Sad that our society has sunk so low.

Sappy, yes very well said:) <br />
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Moston, thanks and I too think that there is this pathetic anti-pc backlash by people who want to cling onto their old prejudices, to continue to express their prejudices with impunity, and then blame those that they target with their bigotry.<br />
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Mizz

Why do women judge other women so harshly? That statistic alone makes me incredibly sad. <br />
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Regarding women with rape fantasies ... what many people don't seem to understand is that these fantasies (at least the vast majority) really have nothing to do with "rape". The fantasy is simply about giving up control, not about being violated as a victim of a violent crime.<br />
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Many good points have been raised here. Thanks for posting this story Mizz.

Polly, you're right.<br />
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There are so many double standards involved here. I would say that women have the absolute right to dress and be how they want without it being read that they are inviting rape in some way! Women are portrayed as sex ob<x>jects and nothing more to these morons. <br />
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Mizz

Polly, I would be delighted if what I've said has helped in any small way to dispel these myths. This is what's so good about these pages. As a group of people we can help to change society a little:)<br />
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Mizz

Thanks, Polly.<br />
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I agree with your point you expressed in another post about counselling, and that there are men out there that think the woman has actually enjoyed being the victim of a brutal nasty attack.<br />
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Mizz

Polly, I agree with every word you say. <br />
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It's tragic that so many rapes go unreported, because the victims believe, with some justification, sadly that they will not be believed. Rape victims should NEVER blame themselves, They are the victims of a despicable show of macho power. Everyone has self control. These lowlifes have to be made to learn it.<br />
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Mizz

Thank you for your kind comments, Eve.<br />
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I think the aggressive misogyny and sexism that prevails in society now does either sex any favours. It is horrible to me that women are perceived as just lumps of meat and the dangers that arise from this. As a man with a brain, I hate the thought that anyone would lump me in with these neanderthals. Until we rid society of this, many more women are going to suffer the same ordeal.<br />
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Mizz

MIZZ, you rock for doing posts like this! And for your your strong advocacy for women.

Polly, thank you.<br />
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Yes, attitudes do need to change. It's awful to think that attitudes seem to have gone backwards over the last 10-15 years. I think the rise of lads mags and also the lurch to the right of society in general are factors. You are so righ, the mental scars can last a lifetime.<br />
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Mizz