So, my girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months and things have been really good. We've had great memories and have shared a lot of love. However, there has been one area of contention. I haven't meet her family and she really wants me to. It has become such a source of frustration for both of us and leaves her crying everytime. I am down to meet her family and I really want to, but the only time her entire family is together this year is during Thanksgiving. I know what you're thinking: "So, what's the problem?" Well, we're both in our first year of law school, at different schools. Anybody in the legal field will tell you that your first year grades are the most important thing in securing a job. I'm really behind in my work and it's starting to stress me out and finals start the week after Thanksgiving.
Oh yeah, another thing about law school is that just about 100% of your grade is based on the final exam. So, if I fail that one exam or do poorly then I fail or do poorly overall in the class. So, having to fly to see her family during that time is just not feasible for me. It's not that I don't want to see them, I actually, legitimately do. It's just really bad timing...really, really bad timing. I've talked to my mom about it and she said that it's not all about her, that I can just meet them next year, and that I can't go on just trying to do everything for her. She stated that I have to focus on myself also, and I kind of agree. But, I also know that this is important to her. If I go, there is no way I will be able to adequately prepare for my exams at the most crucial time to prepare for them, especially when all my peers will be (and my grade also depends on how I do in comparison to my peers). I was talking to a friend today in my class who has a boyfriend and she isn't going home to see her family or her boyfriend at all over Thanksgiving break, all she is going to do is study. She said that her boyfriend understands and that they'll find a way to work it out. But I guess different people act differently, and it's not to say my girlfriend doesnt understand, it's just she really wants me to meet her family and I will, but it won't be when she really wants me to. I don't know what to do. Does anybody have any advice?