Honesty Is Necessary

I met someone in a chatroom.

She sent me a photo.  I later found out that it was her at age 18.  She was 31.  That didn't bother me.

We flirted and had fun for 6 months.  Then I found out she was married.  Initially, she told me her husband had passed away.  It turned out he was suffering some kind of sickness.

It took me a while to figure out the right thing to do, I was so hooked on this girl.

Finally, while chatting with her, she was getting some agro from her husband about what she was doing, so I figured that was my cue.

It hurt not talking to her anymore, but I didn't feel comfortable being a source of aggravation in her marriage.  I don't know how much the husband knew of his wife's activities, but it was enough for him to be unhappy.

I still believe that a LDR can work.  You just need to find the right person.  I thought I had for a long while.

Koala1964 Koala1964
51-55, M
5 Responses Feb 9, 2009

I have been in a similar circumstance and it is just a lesson learned I have had several relationships via internet most have been just friend ships but the way I look at it is ppl can just as easily deceive you in person as they can on the internet. I hope you do not let this keep you from giving it another shot at some point.

(((Hugs))) Searchingformeaning.<br />
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It is a gamble. Hard not to when the prize could be so sweet.

people need to not play games. unfortunatley, we all have to deal with taking our chances with dishonesty when meeting people via the internet. Im so sorry you got your heart stepped on.

It's a few years ago now. I felt rotten at the time, not sure if I was doing the right thing, but it's behind me. I do think of her from time to time though.<br />
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Thank you for your kind words :-)

I do feel so for you koalaguy. People mock LDR's or falling for people via the net, but I can say that they have NFI what they are talking about. Yours is not the first instance of deception causing distress and I'm sure it won't be the last. I hope in time your wound heals.