Can't Win If You Don't Play, But Don't Be Afraid To Fold Either

Here's what I think.  If love is 'a gamble,' then it's best to pursue it when you have a good hand.  A good hand is not playing someone or trying to fool them, for then it isn't really love.  A good hand implies that there is probably good chemistry, common interests, a desire to spend time together, good communication and mutual understanding, amoung the many other aspects that go into a relationship. 

I don't think anyone wants to invest that much hope and energy in something so wonderful, only to witness its crash and burn.  When there are too many uncertainties it's difficult to gage how 'good' a hand you have.  I know that many, many of us -- myself included -- have played our cards, lost, and wondered why we didn't wait for a better opportunity to win. 

That's not to say that putting everything on the line on a risky bet can't pay off.  As often as it doesn't, I reckon there are times when taking a big chance like that does work.  Fortune, or whatever, sometimes smiles upon us.

Anything that is a gamble involves risk, of course.  Like, getting in the car to drive to work every day is a gamble, too.  When the risk is as big as love, the reward is enormous, but so is the loss if things don't work.  It never hurt to get a feel for the other players at the table.  How does their playing make you feel?  What sort of vibes do you get from them?  It isn't just about winning one round or  jackpot.  It's on-going, sustaining it day-in and day-out.  If you're in all the way, for the long haul, the stakes are that much higher.

While love is a gamble worth taking, understanding the game (and I use the term loosely) and being a good player are important.  It goes without saying that too many people can and have been hurt by it.  Taking a big chance in hopes of a big win is thrilling.  Sort of like hoping to win the lottery.  As for myself, I perfer patience and building the best hand possible before having to show my cards.  And, yes, I have folded several time, too, rather than calling the final bet.  I don't see anything wrong with doing that either.  It sometimes leaves me wondering, but, at the the same time, I have to look out for myself too.  It's the difference between knowing that love is gamble worth taking, and recognizing when the game is over, for whatever reason.  If I don't win, it won't be that long before I return to try my luck again.
UnderEli UnderEli
46-50, M
Nov 5, 2010